Young people getting dumber.
when you hit about 45, your mental age is currentAge-20 years-ish but doing an activity associated with mental age can come with some surprising consequences, mostly unhappy surprises at that. But as you continue to age you start accepting who are and start making less stupid choices that are associated with how you mentally feel.
You’re tired all the time. You realize there’s degrees of tired and you figure out how to do things at different levels.
Three main things from my personal experience.
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Sleep is shit. I remember when I was a teen or in my early 20s. I could sleep like a baby for 10 hours straight and wake up like tigger, raring to to, full of vim and vigour. Now I sleep in half hour bites. Each time I wake, I have to change position because some bit or other feels like it’s going to sleep (the irony!) or just hurts. At least once in the night I need to pee. My dreams, at this point, inevitably become some variation of me looking for a toilet and they’re always dirty or broken or something is wrong with them. I wake feeling tired, even if I get 10 hours in bed.
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Chronic arthritis. I’m not that old (late 50s) but my hips are utterly fucked. I can’t walk for more than a couple of miles before the pain starts. I can’t have steroids because (apparently) my hips might just fall apart. I can’t have hip replacement surgery (Fuck! That’s something old people have done!) because the arthritis isn’t currently sufficiently debilitating.
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People no longer notice you. When I was younger I was a good looking guy. I had girlfriends who made everyone’s head turn. Women fancied me, men were envious of me. Now, I’m just some old guy. It’s pretty fucking rare that anyone gives me a second glance. I’m just some old guy.
Until like 5-10 years ago, I’ve been traveling a lot, and in the evening, I’d take the tram or go on foot, sometimes 30-60 minutes, and go to bars, restaurants, no problem. In some city that’s completely unknown to me. After pretty heavy drinking and with just a few hours of sleep, I’d get up in the morning and travel on.
Nowadays, when checking in after, let’s say, a 2 hours journey, all I want to do is watch TV in my suite, end of story.
As to 3.: That can still happen, and it’s quite rewarding when it does. Just a few months ago, I’ve been turning heads again because I started dating a cover model for dentist’s office magazines. All eyes were glued to them wherever we went.
Then one day, you’re sitting all sobered up in some hotel room with what suddenly appears to be the phoniest person on the planet, and you start to realize beauty isn’t all there is.
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A lot has already been said, but one I didn’t see that I truly never expected is that I’m losing my grip strength. I drop things all the time now, and those pickle jars don’t open nearly as easily.
Nah it’s the cans that are getting tighter !
There’s more of the past and less of the future.
A lot of comments here with legitimate aspects of getting older, but not many that aren’t fairly common knowledge.
I offer the compressed sense of time as you age. Everything just seems to go by faster and faster leaving you wondering where all your time went when things are over.
Yup, a week is such a long time in school, I’m in my thirties and I see months go by so quickly
Losing friends is probably up there.
It never stops feeling weird and shocking to me how many people I’ve known that died before age 30.
My best friend since childhood died last year and that just destroyed me. Lost my mom just a couple months later which made things worse, but not as much as everyone thinking losing my mom was the only major loss I’ve had in the last year. I hate how much losing my friend seems to just get ignored when talking to even my therapist about all the things that has happened to me over the last year.
Your life isn’t going to get better. Those old “It gets better.” campaigns used to seriously piss me off. You are a slave to crapitalism until you die
I’ve got good news for you!
My life got better as I got older, but I don’t live in the States, so maybe that’s a factor.
No purpose, no goal. My entire life has been driven by: goto college, meet someone, get married, buy a house, have a kid, pay for college, save for retirement. Ok, done?
Hope you had more good times than bad
For sure. It’s mainly psychological, feeling a bit adrift. Trying f to transition from always working toward a long term goal to … not. And obviously you don’t want to just exist and kill time. There’s a whole world of short term experiences and satisfaction just waiting for the right shift in mindset
In my 30’s, if my pee was extra yellow I’d think “Wow” and then get on with my life. In my 70’s, if my pee is extra yellow I think " My organs are broken! I’m dying!".
I think you just need to drink more?
They drank 4 liters of water is the plot twist
Rapid aging happens like growth spurts. Around 40-44 apparently again around 65. Small print becomes a problem, body does not handle alcohol as before, body aches and pains become constant. Exercise is essential, but a setback from an injury or sedentary lifestyle is difficult to escape from.
Amen. And if you don’t get enough sleep, you don’t look “cute” anymore.
You look like absolute shit.I have heard this as well. Hitting 42 this year and feeling less youthful than I did in years past…
Your body starts breaking down long before you’re ready or expected, despite every warning you heard your whole life.
It’s traumatic for many. People start to realize that they actually age in their 30s and turn to weird shit because they don’t know how to deal with trauma of aging.
Rampant discrimination against older people, especially women is crazy and something you don’t fully notice until you or your peers are affected directly.
Rampant discrimination against older people, especially women is crazy and something you don’t fully notice until you or your peers are affected directly.
I hear old people talk about this, but then they run every large business and government, have most of the money, and get like the majority of government services as well.
Porque no los dos
The fastest rise in homeless demographic are women over 50. GOP are directly putting your mothers and grandmothers on the street effectively murdering them
The constant sex, the extra money, the sudden inclination to dunk at basketball, watching your dick get larger, hair getting more vibrant, skin getting fuller, the daily blowjobs, the endless promotions, fast cars, things getting cheaper and more affordable, watching your parents benchpressing monster trucks…
You had all those things?!#!? I’m totes jells!
