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Never ever book an airbnb
Obligatory, FUCK AIRBNB!
oh sure thanks, let me get my gold lined cheque book and start making reservations this second!
Well yeah that post is bougie af, you could just invite people over lol
I live in a single room in a basement.
i was living in a shed when i made that comment 7 hours ago. just picked up keys to an actual apartment today. hoping the best for your situation, i know its not easy.
Thanks it’s honestly not too bad. Just no good for hosting social events.
Congrats on the apartment.
Can you write something in that gold lined checkbook for the rest of us too?
Yeah, book airbnb, buy tickets and then watch people casually forget to pay you back.
Those are not friends.
Except everyone is like that. If you will insist on only hanging out with people that that take part in organizing, are on time, pay their debts promptly and actually have time to go out you will be handing out alone.
This is false.
If it’s different for you, you’re very lucky. Enjoy.
Skill issue.
What’s the skill? Fixing the world?
This week, I planned a 4p game night, got several people to respond affirmatively on it. No one showed up.
Some people are just so brain-empty they can’t associate words to meaning. They just respond in expectation, assuming they should say “Yeah, I’ll be there!” and then perform no follow up with travel planning or calendar entries. That is how dumb this generation is.
Flaky people have always been flaky it’s not a generational thing.
You were planning the event. Did you perform any follow up?
It’s the phones 😒
People were flaky before phones, don’t make this a generational thing.
I’m not, I was less flaky before I got a phone.
Young folks are the ones eschewing smartphones, not boomers
I’m the opposite. Having easy access to calendar reminders has made me way less flaky
Ah interesting. For me being able to actually reach people at any time has made me much more prone to cancelling plans.
Neat AirBnB ad
If I have the spoons and money, I like to just host an outing for my friends. Plan it, pay for everything and drive. It’s sweet to provide an experience that might not have happened without the effort.
My husband got tired of being the only planner and stopped, and his friend group basically disintegrated. He came to regret it later realizing, yes, someone has to take the lead or things don’t happen.
I don’t see why that was so regretful of him to stop if he got burnt out from continuing. I would rather be disappointed that no one else was interested in at least rotating the burden; even just one other person alternating can make a huge difference. With that said, I wonder if he asked anyone.
Yep, same
book the airbnb
I’d rather be lonely than give this garbage company a single cent of my money.
They rent out Palestinian homes in the West Bank that were stolen by Zionist settler terrorists.
Fuck AirBnB
Oh my goodness, THIS, a million percent!! Also, you have to be ok with the event you plan being the reward in itself for you, because if you expect people to thank you… you’re going to have a bad time. On top of that, you have to be ok with people expecting you to do it forever from that moment on. Basically, you’re going to have to be quite emotionally and mentally robust to enjoy the experience 🤣
Oof I feel I’ve been cursed on this front. Any events I try to plan have invariably had zero participation. A particularly rough one was when I tried asking 6 or so people to join me for a convention, 5 of them had (genuine) reasons for why they couldn’t join, and the last one tried their best but almost as if by superstition, their phone died
It’s gotten to the point where (in an admittedly superstitious manner) I ask people to plan events on my behalf, and inexplicably that ends up working
There’s a reason I stopped hosting gatherings and planning events.
I used to live within 20 minutes by car, bus, or train to every single one of my friends. Now the closest one is 35 minutes away. Many of them are parents now, some have second jobs.
Planning changed from a “let’s hang next Friday” to a week-long process of comparing availabilities (usually received after individually bugging people) which results in a planned night 1-2 months out. And often times, something comes up and we have to start over.
I got frustrated with it and started giving them MY availability, telling them to figure it out between themselves and get back to me. But since I’m kind of the linchpin of a disparate friend group, it rarely happens.
My goodness, I have a friend who refuses (REFUSES) to give a bulk availability list, and instead just say “No” to everyone else’s dates that don’t match his. My bro, just give me a list of days for the love of socialism.
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Me: I can do X, Y, Z, and AA
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Friend1 : I got X, Z, AA, and maybe Y if we go early
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Friend2: I got V, Y, N, %, and Left-Field
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Friend3 : None of those work for me
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Me: What does work for you?
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Friend3: I dunno, what dates are you guys open to?
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Me: WE JUST DID THAT
I mean, at that point, don’t discuss it in text, but use a scheduling tool that forces people into a framework. If they refuse, they’re just being a dick, but at that point, at least it’s obvious they’re fucking around.
Tools like this help a lot for my group
I’ll give this a gander
Group chats on Discord, Signal, Telegram, and WhatsApp all support poll features, too, if one’s social circles use any of those. I’ve even assembled availability-scheduling through Google Forms as well.
Mine aren’t that bad and it’s admittedly only one of them who cancels but it’s still frustrating enough for me to call it quits on organizing stuff
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There is an argument here for urbanism. Here in the states at least the “dream” is to move to a smaller suburb and live in a detached home. For me, it sounds horrible, being an hour away from your friends by car. I’ll always be somewhere where I can bus/train/walk to other people.
There’s actually a good theory that that’s why so many people look fondly back on college. It’s not the university they’re missing, but a walkable neighborhood.
Well not every city has every industry so there’s not much urbanism would do there. We all moved for work or to be closer to family.
I think a better theory for the nostalgia is just proximity to friends. Not to mention the abundance of free time and lack of responsibility…the neighborhoods surely pale in comparison.
Yeah this. So much free time, I lived with my best friend (he’s now on the other side of the world), and I could visit all my other best friends easily. I live in a more walkable city now, but none of my friends from that time live here.
Yeah…my friend group was a lot bigger back then from proximity alone. We’re all across the US now and a couple are overseas.
I’ve made more friends since but as an adult, location doesn’t dictate friendships so they were far to begin with
Step 1: Become the planner.
Step 2: Tell every one that the plan is cancelled.
Step 3: Enjoy your time alone at home, watching a film or show you’ve already watched 100 times, while drinking cola with potato chips.
I gotta find a community that has more social people than anti-socisl. It’s kind of exhausting reading so much of this.
Mastodon is a bit better in that regard, but often the memes on Lemmy are just too 🔥
On one hand, yes absolutely.
On the other hand, I don’t know if it was always like this, but when I organised stuff it was thankless work that saw me out of pocket :-/
If “out of pocket” means financial cost (just to ascertain), I dodge this by only organizing free events, haha.
Yeah, it means I spent my own money to do a thing that would bring friends together and have some fun. And they did. But then, nothing.
Right, never do so again! Free or bust, haha.
Yup, that was a lesson learned, lol
This is a great way to end up with no friends lol
Downvoting me doesn’t make it less true
…fuh … rinds? …free unds?? What is that word? Oh, the TV show? What is this?
Introverts need more casual interactions, the walk or bike to work/school, with a stop at the local park or coffee shop
coffee shops are where it’s at
Maybe it is me but I’ve never been sitting in a coffee shop and seen anyone who wanted to be talked to. Headphones, laptops, doom scrolling.
Probably me, though.
different kind of coffeeshop : )
Oooh…
