A smaller version of this is when you go to a theme park with a group of friends. Everyone wants to “stay together,” but everyone also wants to ride a specific ride. A long time ago, a friend taught me to just start walking to a next ride. People can come along or not. They usually do, though, while still debating which ride we should do next. If someone asks me where I’m going, I just smile and say, “to the next ride.” I go to theme parks to ride roller coasters (and the viking ship, but ONLY if it goes all the way around), not to talk about which roller coasters to ride. It’s not a mix tape - the order doesn’t really matter. We’ll get to them all multiple times. It’s why we usually go on Tuesday, Wednesday or Thursday.
Basically, if you want to do something with your friends, do it. Invite them, but take the lead and do it. They can come along or not. Their choice. If you ask if people want to do something, they’ll all say sure, but planning will get messy fast. Plan it far enough in advance, give them a date and a deadline (for things like deposits), and people can usually move things around if they really want to be there. If they miss the deadline/date, too bad. Maybe next time.
On that note, if you love rollercoasters, go alone. Then you can ride or do whatever the fuck you want when you want. Take the single rider line without worrying about the group being split up. Buy a fast lane pass without worrying about whether everyone else wants to spend that money or would rather spend more time in lines. Eat wherever you want when you are hungry. Show up when you feel like it then leave when you’re bored or close.
A smaller version of this is when you go to a theme park with a group of friends. Everyone wants to “stay together,” but everyone also wants to ride a specific ride. A long time ago, a friend taught me to just start walking to a next ride. People can come along or not. They usually do, though, while still debating which ride we should do next. If someone asks me where I’m going, I just smile and say, “to the next ride.” I go to theme parks to ride roller coasters (and the viking ship, but ONLY if it goes all the way around), not to talk about which roller coasters to ride. It’s not a mix tape - the order doesn’t really matter. We’ll get to them all multiple times. It’s why we usually go on Tuesday, Wednesday or Thursday.
Basically, if you want to do something with your friends, do it. Invite them, but take the lead and do it. They can come along or not. Their choice. If you ask if people want to do something, they’ll all say sure, but planning will get messy fast. Plan it far enough in advance, give them a date and a deadline (for things like deposits), and people can usually move things around if they really want to be there. If they miss the deadline/date, too bad. Maybe next time.
On that note, if you love rollercoasters, go alone. Then you can ride or do whatever the fuck you want when you want. Take the single rider line without worrying about the group being split up. Buy a fast lane pass without worrying about whether everyone else wants to spend that money or would rather spend more time in lines. Eat wherever you want when you are hungry. Show up when you feel like it then leave when you’re bored or close.