It has zero impact on my life therefore I don’t care.
It might be fine for the moment but if the relationship stays long term it will be hard when one partner starts to like age and degrade a lot quicker than the other. In the end one might be ill and on the way to death while the other one has quite a bit of time ahead of them. I think that can strain a relationship in the long run
I think it’s kinda weird and likely indicates that one or both have some unresolved parental issues. I even may silently judge, but it’s none of my business otherwise.
With my hands.
Both adults.
I have other things to care about.
I’ve seen it before. Never seen it work out, but I have seen it. How do I feel about it? Assuming it’s an otherwise healthy relationship with good communication and there’s no abuse, I personally couldn’t care less. I have no idea what those two people would have in common in terms of personality, interests, or goals, but that’s not my business.
The problem is that every time I’ve seen it, the power balance is incredibly lopsided. Generally an insecure older person who projects strength and wisdom and a troubled younger person who craves stability and authority. The older one usually gets controlling and jealous and the younger eventually catches on and uses that jealousy to manipulate the older person. It’s always a toxic mess when it gets to that point.
I’ve seen it before. Never seen it work out, but I have seen it.
It’s also almost universally something that the people involved cannot take outside advice on. It seems to be one of those things that must be experienced personally.
Thats really well put
Weird for sure. Why do you keep on asking this question in different ways on different accounts? Are you trying to justify it? Is it a fetish?
Inquiring minds want to know!
I’d have some questions for the 46 year old. Mainly “can’t find someone your own age who’s naive enough to put up with your shit?”.
Call it ageism, but at 40 I can’t look at a 25 year old and see an equal adult. That’s still a kid in my head even if legally and practically speaking they’re an adult. I see a lot of dudes my age and older going after 20-25 year olds because their abusive tactics don’t work on older women.
That’s is so totally my ex wife. I was 17 and she was thirty.
Now I’m nearly 40 and over the years it’s been quite obviously why she needed 17 year old.
I’ve dated women a bit older than sense then but it’s different if I’m 30 and they are 50. It’s not the same power imbalance
Mostly that it’s none of my business. Don’t see how that big of a gap really works out long term but if they’re happy I’m happy. 25 is old enough to have a good enough idea of how things work to not get taken advantage of (usually).
I feel like it’s none of my business.
Whatever, but with that kind of gap there is a power imbalance whether you see it or not.
It’s not about the age gap. They’re adults. The same rules apply to any relationship. If nobody’s being manipulated, abused, taken advantage of or harmed, then people need to mind their own business.
there’s a rule of thumb: absolute MINIMUM age is half your age + 7. which would make the minimum 30
Am I, or someone I love, the 46 year old, or the 25 year old?
The only time I would care is if the answer to the first question is “yes” or if one of the parties isn’t acting consensually… Otherwise, its not any of my business, as they’re both consenting adults.
If more people worried about themselves, and less about what others are doing, the world would be better off.
Mind ya business, people.
I’d raise an eyebrow
