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  • Only one I’ve found bearable in a post-Swype world is heliboard.

    Two caveats. First, that you have to do extra work to enable glide typing. It isn’t difficult, but it’s not something you would automatically think to do.

    Second, that it’s suggestions are kinda crap lol. It’s good at picking up the glide input, but the suggestions it pulls up when it doesn’t are sometimes batshit lol.

    Coming from Swype, it’s not exactly great. But it’s on par with gboard in most ways








  • Wrong is such a loaded term. And the text of your post shows why. It’s linking “wrong” with a specific set of traits. Then, there’s the follow up question that’s kinda fucking weird, but that’s a different issue.

    So, for something to be “wrong” it has to violate some set of standards that set limits on “right”

    And there is no single, universal consensus on the obligations of an adult child to their parents. It’s all situational. Abuse would only be one factor in trying to determine wrongness. Same with it being unforgivable or not. Cold would be about the Indian internal emotional state and is separate from the other two.

    So, here’s what it comes down to. If the choice is made in a vacuum, fully on the basis of the convenience of the child of the dying person, you’d be pushing into a wrong by most moral and ethical systems. But if there’s other reasons, it can push things back into being acceptable.

    I personally don’t hold that being “bedside” for a death is inherently a good act. It can be worse for everyone involved. The same is true for the concept of a final goodbye. It isn’t inherently of benefit to anyone. It can be. And, very often, it ends up being the wise decision because you only get one chance at it. But it absolutely isn’t inherently right, the way something like feeding a starving person is likely to be. It’s a choice. One that has to be weighed situationally.

    I still tend to say that for most people, that final visit is likely to be more beneficial than negative, even though it can be traumatic. That’s even true when abuse is a factor. Closure has become a bit of a trope, but it really is a net positive. Part of death is that it can be difficult to really accept the fact of it if it happens “off screen”.

    Being there, seeing the reality of it adds weight to the fact of the death that makes it real, even if it isn’t for the final moments of death.

    Now, celebrating death? I tend to think that if someone is celebrating the death of a parent, there’s a significant reason. Usually either that the parent was fucking horrible, or that the child is. Celebrating death can be more neutral in theory, but in practice it’s never a good look.

    Fwiw, I’ve been bedside at deaths. More than I should have. It hasn’t been my parents yet, but some close family. A lot of patients as well. I can’t say I regret any of them I was there for. But I regret not having been there for some that I missed.


  • Man, they got kinda buried in the hair era, but they managed to keep a high degree of quality to their music. And yes, there is/was such thing as quality hair rock.

    They got compared to Cinderella a lot, and justifiably so. Can’t say they ever topped their first album though.

    Anyway, well worth a listen, even if you don’t like that some style, just because it is a solid album of the genre.



  • Ngl, makeup is a combination of craft and art, and it ain’t easy.

    When I would have female patients back in the day, there was a marked benefit in them being able to get dressed up, do all the extra stuff and feel pretty in the chapel, or at dinner or whatever. Didn’t do as much of that in home health as in facilities what with male caregivers being less requested in that branch of care. But that’s why I put effort into tying, because the benefits were massive.

    Learning to shave legs was easy enough, especially compared to faces. Armpits took some adjustments, but wasn’t something that would get screwed up by inexperience, it would just take longer. Even figuring out how to help an elderly lady get into a bra right was simple enough once I got past the awkward.

    But makeup? I never got good at it. Just passable. Lipstick was simple enough, I guess, but it still had a learning curve, and I wasn’t responsible for picking the right colors, I just put on what they had. Same with stuff like mascara (the easiest for me), blush, or the dreaded eye shadow (that was where my skills were weakest).

    The point being that anyone struggling should take it easy on themselves. It’s a learned skill, not something people are born knowing. Well, maybe there’s some inborn ability for color choosing, I dunno. All the little gender coded skills are similar, imo, but make-up is a much more complicated art to gain proficiency in than most, and it has a major effect on one’s self image if one wants to use it at all.

    Mind you, it is a skill anyone can learn. If my goofy ass could manage to pick up the basics, someone with more coordination and attention to detail will get there way faster and more fully than I did. So, ladies, don’t beat yourself up over the learning curve. You’ll get there eventually :)




  • Be careful.

    Roosters can be great. They can also be territorial and outright dangerous. Sometimes the same rooster will be all of that. And, if it goes bad, they are impossible to place. Rooster rescues take in all they can, but there’s a limit to how many any given place can house, and roosters are very prone to needing rescues between their own natures, laws, and humans not knowing what they’re getting into.

    That being said, if you have a lot of space, plenty of time, and are aware of their needs, a rooster with your flock is a truly wonderful thing. Ours has fought off a dog three times a coyote (or maybe coydog, hard to be sure) once, and in one of those cases literally broke his spur off in the dog’s ass. He even tried to fight off a hawk that got one of our hens, though he didn’t manage to succeed.

    But chickens are highly social. You need multiple unless you’re able to have them with you inside and have the time to serve the role of flock for them. A rooster without a flock is going to be prone to stress. A stressed rooster is prone to being territorial. A territorial rooster is prone to fuckery. And that fuckery can include trying to break a spur off in your ass.

    Legit, I love our rooster. But I would not take another one on in the future. It’s a ton of work when he’s got a hair up his ass, which is 9/10 days here lately. If I were less disabled, and could expand the flock enough to keep them all happy, that would change though. If the world was perfect and I could handle the work involved, I’d have a dozen girls and when this big dummy eventually dies, I’d want another. I just can’t ever recommend it without the caveats being covered




  • I dunno.

    On one hand, fuck reddit.

    On another, if a given poster is also mildly annoyed at the subject matter enough to repost, then isn’t it still their post here?

    Or, on the third hand, if scrollers are popping in to talk, doesn’t it serve the same purpose as a legit original post?

    I would, however, on the fourth hand like to see it explicitly stated that just linking to reddit ain’t cool. Because it ain’t. Copy paste the post so nobody has to go there to enjoy it here.

    On the fifth hand, I suggest speaking to a geneticist because having five hands for a human is plain strange.


  • Is it safe to assume that fission in a complex organism would actually transfer learning?

    I’m not confident enough in my grasp of it to say either way. That being said, the geek in me that writes fiction can see the brain duplication ending up with two newborns, or two individuals with bits and pieces of the established pathways of the parent.