International Transgender Day of Visibility (TDoV) is a day for celebrating the lives of transgender people, recognizing the contributions we make to society and rallying against the discrimination we face. TDoV also functions as a counterpart to the International Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDoR)[1]; with TDoR being a somber occasion and TDoV having a more celebratory nature.
For this week, in observation of TDoV, I invite you all, the posters in our community to write a little bit about the celebration of trans lives.
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TDoR is observed on November 20th and memorializes those of us who’s lives were stolen by transphobic violence, particularly trans women of color. TDoR was initially founded in 1999 in remembrance of Rita Hester, Chanelle Pickett, and Monique Thomas, three black trans women who were murdered in the Boston area. ↩︎
HELLO THIS IS THE MEGA SIGN UP POST/LIST POST
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Omg I’m next. I’d better start working on my post as soon as possible this weekend…
Finally just got estrogen!!
Congrats! Should make remembering your bHRTday easy.
I started right after the solstice, so I decided to celebrate it in every solstice.
Mines just a random day (April 12). I did consider waiting to start until exactly 6 months away from my birthday if that happened to be coming up soon, but it wasn’t, so I didn’t.
True lol, maybe i can make my friends get me double pizza for both Buy a Trans Woman a Pizza Day and for bhrtday hehehe >:3
Congrats!!!
So happy for you! E is absolutely life-changing
Yess im v excited for whats to come
SICK! what method?
Pills right now, will change to injections later tho
Theres been some trouble getting the vials i ordered shipped, so while i wait another girl offered to give some pills for the time :3
Nice!
That’s the way to go imo, congrats!
hell yeag!! really happy for you
Yo I got ma’am’d at the grocery store? And I wasn’t wearing makeup or anything??
Older ladies at the money order counter truly are my strongest soldiers
I get compliments on my outfits almost exclusively from boomer women and older in Dollar General
CW: Gender dysphoria and depression
Comrades, I know this is a celebratory occasion, but I feel like I’m choking and need to let this out somewhere, I have no one to talk about this.
I know I’m not cis, it’s not cis to literally wonder what gender I am every single day of my life for the past I don’t even know how many years, all I know is that I don’t like being a man. I don’t like looking like a man, sounding like a man, presenting as a man, being perceived as a man, having a beard and having chest hair.
Some days it’s easier to deal with, and I sometimes don’t care that much. Others it is not, today is one of those, probably the worst one yet. I have been meaning to comment or post here for a while, but always tossed it aside.
I have been depressed for a long time now, I’m medicated, but it’s not working nearly as well as I hoped. I’m also autistic, ADHD, shy and have a lot of social anxiety. I have mentioned this to my therapist before, but it’s hard for me and I haven’t been able to talk with her for almost a year now too, because neither I nor my mom work and we both depend on my dad’s money for everything, and his insistence on trying to be a businessman keeps fucking him over. I can’t tell him this tho or he will get angry and we will fight again, which just sucks. In the last year we have moved twice, both because we have little money and because the past 2 landlords were both pieces of shit, the most recent was less then a month ago and now me and my mom are in a house far away in the middle of nowhere, but we don’t have to worry about rent at least.
Today one of the only few friends I have told me he is having a child. I felt so happy for him!!! Genuinely happy!! But soon after I realized I haven’t changed in a long time, I’m the exact same person with the exact same issues unable to change, I’m still unemployed, still depressed, still doing the same things I do daily, still unable to read a single book or study because I can’t focus and I start yawning non-stop, no matter how much I want to do that, let alone even being able to find the motivation to start 9/10 times. I’m still stuck, and that triggered me wanting to post this comment here, the dysphoria came in like a truck alongside that.
When I made this account I set my pronouns to [any] because of that, it was a chance for me to try something else while just getting rid of the [he/him] pronouns without actually committing to it, yet I haven’t even posted much because most of the time I’m too depressed or anxious for that. It also doesn’t help that I always had issues with my body. I’m obese now, and haven’t been able to lose weight, but I have been overweight ever since I was little too.
I want to change so bad, yet I feel like I’m unable to, feel like I’m stuck, and with no motivation.
It’s been at least an hour since I started writing this comment, and I have read it multiple times already instead of just hitting post.
I don’t have much advice to offer on most of that, but if you don’t like having facial and chest hair you should shave them and see how you feel afterwards.
I already do that when depression is not kicking my ass and I definitely feel better after. But having to do it in the first place sucks, specially because I have a permanent beard shadow.
It does suck. I hope someday you can afford laser hair removal, it makes a big difference.
Thanks, feeling seen helps a little bit at least.
I’m happy that I’ve reached a point in my transition where I can encourage other comrades to be their true selves. I’ve come very far from the timid little egg I once was.
It’s been 8 years since I started HRT. I don’t know what else to say, really. Everything is better than I ever imagined it could be. It can, maybe it even does get better for you given enough time. Whoever you are reading this. Yeah, you. It gets better.
cw abuse
Spent about 5 of those years in an abusive relationship that I only very recently got out of and life looks so much different with some room to breathe. I don’t feel like I’m dying all the time. I’m not scared to leave the house anymore. I have my own life that is mine and I don’t have to lie about who I am to survive anymore. I didn’t spend as long as I did in the closet to get shoved in another equally shitty closet. I’m done. I’m free. Now what?
People have started calling me a name my name is commonly short for. I haven’t asked anyone to do this but I’m not complaining. I kinda really love it
Despite everything I learn and go through the world will never take my wonder or whimsy from me :3
jestermaxxing
whimsymaxxing
the new meta
Real gender fluidity has never been tried because people are incapable of having a fluid view of someone. Like I basically can never be a real man in most people’s eyes because I’ve tried being/am a woman sometimes. Im so tired of being third gendered when I’m totally cool being a MAN or a WOMAN, but never something in between/neither. Frustrateddddd. Think I’ll just go back to being a butch lesbian and give up on manhood.
How it feels like to insult people on the internet
My pill era is almost over. First vial is arriving soon, maybe even by tomorrow. Wouldn’t it be perfect if I could do my first injection on TDoV?
In my stabbing myself era (good)
I think I’m gonna start getting into exercising daily! I already wanted to be outside more, but I’m realizing now just how much strength I’ve lost from transitioning and want to build it back up.
Also want to lose weight slowly, I’m a big girl I’m 300+ pounds and want to get to around 230 by 2030.
Gonna read some books so I can exercise the best I can especially at my weight(don’t wanna hurt my joints)
They also started doing morning stretching exercises at work and I’ve been really liking it, I feel less tired at the end of the day now.
horny
Also wanna be able to bridal carry my girlfriend and shove her face in my sweaty pits
230 by 2030 is a great goal, good job getting back into it. I got back into walking last year and feel much better even without weight loss, losing weight made me feel so much better too.
You’re gonna make your goals!
I wanna be able to cosplay noi from dorohedoro I have a very similar build to this, I’m just fat currently; I also have the height to match.
Cool. Never watched dorohedoro (on my list, like a 1000 other things), but i get wanting to cosplay a character. For halloween I wanted to cosplay a charater (fors wall from lord of the mysteries) but all the chinese cosplay outfits were too small and my waist too thick. Gave me lots of dysphoria* … sigh.
I wish you luck in your fitness goals. May you achieve cosplay greatness.
*specifically the part about not being able to cosplay female characters from my favorite series
Dorohedoro is my favorite anime/manga of all time! It’s just unlike anything else I’ve found that has had some mainstream success. Also what’s Lord of mysteries? Is it a cultivation novel cause I know you like those?
It’s not cultivation, but it’s Chinese (the most popular one). It’s set in a Victorian setting with lovecraftian elements. The name is also a hint. This is Fors wall.
She was my second choice behind cosplaying Amon, aka this guy (it’s a gender neutral outfit)
I even traveled around the country to try to get the logistics of either costume down but it wouldn’t have worked out unless I got a really shoddy costume that didn’t look anything like the characters. And I’d have to accept some shoddy materials which would rip after a few uses. Either that, or I paid like 200 bucks (I found a full Amon costume on aliexpress for that much). I also did find a Fors costume on Aliexpress, whose waist measurements wouldn’t have fit me at all and I decided to cry in my room instead of dressing up.
I’ll have to check it out
Noi is so cooool!!
Big girl gang
I love usI’m trying to lose weight too, mostly just so biking and hiking will be less painful and in case I run from the pigs. But I’m trying to stay a big girl, I’m around 2m tall anyway so probs not gonna go much below 120kg (265lbs)
Went to the local gay bar for their trans day of visibility fundraising event with my nb partner tonight, we had a good time and they even bid on and won the movie night basket. We’re gonna make a night of it lol.
Love all of my trans comrades on Hexbear. You make this place wonderful.
A friend actually did reach out to me about today, that was very nice of him.
I had never known another trans woman, and Ive been out for less than a year. After meeting someone else (irl) and just hanging out, I had such a visceral response the next day when I reflected on it (so many tears but thats my life now I guess lol). Basically, that one interaction (and a new friend!) broke down almost all of my deeply entrenched transphobia.
Its really nice. <3 I hope y’all have a great day being yourselves
Also some of my friends seem to think they are supposed to buy me pizza tomorrow. I’m not going to say no…
