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  • SterlingPooper [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
    6·
    12 days ago
    end of June thoughts

    Somehow I’m never in town for the queer meetups. If I didn’t know any better I’d assume they’re scheduling things when I can’t go, but it’s just a really annoying coincidence every time.

    Gonna try again to find an in-person therapist. One place just has an intake form on their website, and it feels sketchy to fill it out and input all my info without like, talking to someone I guess?

    I can also go through my university I’m pretty sure. It’s annoying because obviously there are resources, but they’re just elusive somehow? And there are queer people around but like, I just don’t see all that many events that appeal to me?

    Other people appear to be meet up with people they already know. I don’t know a single other queer person on campus. I don’t see an obvious opportunity to meet people.

    I also know that I’m fucking weird in that I’d be way more likely to go to more things if I had one person. I need to be made to socialize, frankly.

    I’m using Tinder again because I don’t know where or how people meet around here. I want a relationship, but I also have zero friends, and I don’t know what I want or who I want to be when I’m in a relationship.

    You’d think the more you post the more others would engage, but there’s probably something there that I’m missing too.

    • HexaSnoot [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
      6·
      12 days ago

      Maybe you can say on a “dating” app that you’d like to meet people while bringing a friend you already have. You can be honest and say why. Most people can relate to not wanting to meet people alone. I relate to it.

      • HexaSnoot [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
        6·
        12 days ago

        I know some “dating” apps have settings specifically for people friend-searching. Also if you say you say you’re interested in LGBTQI rights some apps will relentlessly try to match you with specifically other LGBTQI supporters.

    • TerminalEncounter [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
      5·
      12 days ago

      Those are great ideas! Use your university’s resources while you can, one of the big things I miss most about my old university was the library. And my doctor, that was super convenient.

      You wanna use Tinder to make friends or meet someone romantically or…? I remember people putting they just wanted to be friends on Tinder in their bios in like 2016 but thought it was a weird choice (at the time it was pure hookup app) maybe that’s changed over the last decade

      • SterlingPooper [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
        3·
        11 days ago

        Honestly, idk. Like, it’d be cool both to have more friends and to have a partner. I can only seem to focus on one person at a time. I’m just so sick of being alone.

        I’m so fucking sick of it. I’ve been trying for years.