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I finally came out to my family and it went well! My identity is not questioned, they are slowly using my new name and pronouns too 🩷
How you must be moving right now: ᕕ(ᐛ)ᕗ
Yay, happy for you!!
AMAZING!!! Happy for you
That’s awesome! People need to see more stories like this! When I came out, all I ever read about was how terrible coming out can go. I was terrified that when I came out I was going to lose all my family and friends, but they’ve pretty much all been super supportive.
Happy Victory Day to the queer people in my phone
user with a history of transphobia feigning ignorance to run defense for a known transphobe ultraleftist slop youtuber? just a normal day outside of the trans mega on hexbear. more purges now!
I don’t know where some cis people get off thinking transphobia is exclusively misgendering someone.
Also we had a mod posting transphobia what, like last week? Fuck we need purges
Many cis ppl think transphobia is basically just being rude, masking it as “having concerns” or whatever passes under the radar for them. Same way lots of white ppl think racism is just yelling the n word
TMA Stalin for president
Yea 100%, it’s so common even in people who believe they support us. I saw someome (not here) the other day say they support trans people. But not trans women in sports, non passing trans women in bathrooms, trans women going to women’s prison, and were not sure if trans youth should get healthcare. Fantastic.
People definitely just think transphobia is outward hostility
“Supports trans ppl” but thinks trans women should be forced into actively dangerous situations in mens prisons, bathrooms and locker rooms. Amazing
Classic case of “i support trans people except in any situation where it’s controversial and actually matters.”
We do. TC69 thought must be upheld.
On that post from that mod, he listened to us upon it being explained that it was transphobic and deleted the post. It sucks that we had to see and do that, but he’s clearly trying and listening which is about all I can hope for from cis allies.
I along with another trans person had to explain some transphobic beliefs that my irl bestie and closest ally had held. It’s just so engrained in every part of society.
Yes, i agree that it’s prevalent and that sometimes the cissies need an explanation. The thing is, in the case of GlimmerTwin, he’s been acting transphobic in the past, was openly dismissive when i tried to explain to him what the problem was and now he’s at it again. Some people just do not want to learn.
lol I had to check my user tags and sure as hell that’s one of the folks I’ve already got tagged as a transphobe lmao (independently, from my own observations in the past in case that wasn’t clear)
Oh hey, that tag was for the thing that @SerialExperimentsGay@hexbear.net mentioned upthread. Neat. This is why I mainly stick to traa tbh.
Oh absolutely. Deserved ban, could’ve been longer tho.
I’ve seen a few crypto transphobes pop off lately. On the one hand
but also on the other, I’m glad they’re showing their faces so we can take action.What action was taken against the mod, they still are a mod no?
Let me dm you to make sure we’re talking about the same thing, and then I’ll publicly clarify here.
No action was taken against that mod. In this case he resolved it himself when asked to, and he also advised the mod team that the post in question was a repost originally by another user, and directed that information to that comm’s mod team.
When I found out about this, I didn’t call for any additional action because I considered the action resolved on the basis that he had listened to his trans comrades and corrected his behavior by deleting the post, and stated that he was taking notes for the future which he immediately demonstrated by helping call attention to another offending post so that it could be deleted for transphobia.
If you agree or disagree with my assement please let me know, I’m here for you all and I want to do what’s right by you.
Edit: forgot to tag @BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net since this is a reply to my own comment
Little bit less upset now, TBH originally wanted him demodded and was thinking about trying to kick something off about it. But I guess that’s fine.
Oof, what happened this time? ISTG this shit has gotten more frequent over the last months.
Edit: nvm, it’s been that asshole.
Oh is this latest person a repeat offender?
Yeah, he called me a transvestigator for respecting the gender identity of a dead, unouted trans woman.
Oh shit I remember that. Honestly this person should just be banned atp.
So fucking depressing how little people, even here care about us
100%, his is one of those “how is this guy not banned already” modlog histories
Today I successfully made my desires known through communication with words 🥳
You can just say what’s on your mind! It’s that easy! 🎉 🎉 🎉
🤯
You ever have someone that you knew for a short amount of time (a month, a week, a few days, even just a conversation or single comment) but who nevertheless changed you in some big way, and you still think about them years later and wish you could talk to them again and just know what they’re doing now and tell them how they changed your life and everything? But like, you were just some person they met once years ago and they don’t think about you, probably don’t even remember you. I have many of these people.
I was this person for someone too. Seeing me happy and confident helped her have the courage to come out. Only we met again years later and she told me that (I’d had no idea). It made me so happy and feel so good about myself to know I’ve actually made some kind of positive impact on that world. I thought it very romantic too; we’re girlfriends now 🥰🥰🥰
we’re girlfriends now
Good ending!
A very good one!! T4t is so amazing
I Agree! Met my partner years ago but basically only ended up together by chance, and now we’re in gay t4t love. Cant believe this is my life
Cant believe this is my life
I say this literally all the time! Life is so cool, I love being trans
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Yeah :(
Definitely a few of mine were people here. For all I know, some could still be here even. But both of us on a different account. Weird to think about. I love to stew my brain in weird nostalgic longing for people like that sometimes though
Like posters even who I never talked to, just people who’s posts were very important to me figure out that I’m trans
Been thinking a lot today about the first person to ever make me feel desirable. I was sure I’d be alone forever, that no one could possibly want me, until they did. We went on two dates a week apart, it didn’t worj between us. But my self hatred began to crumble in the face of the indisputable fact that someone thought I was attractive. 6 months later I was on hrt and in love with my first girlfriend. I wish I could tell them that; they cried and felt so bad about ending it, they thought they had hurt me and I never saw them again
Being closeted is its own special circle of hell. I know my identity but most people don’t. Every interaction feels fake and hollow.
Hopefully only another year of this. I can get laser in that time. Have time to voice train but probably won’t. Fuck me
It really is. This is why I ran out of the closet well before I had even started any sort of medical transition. Said fuck it, it’s other people’s problem if they can’t see me for me once it’s explained to them. In some ways I’m sure it seemed like I was abandoning self preservation, but in other ways it was self preservation.
I feel you. The people who know treat me like a human being but for the people who don’t, it’s just a merry-go-round of “sir, him, mr” and I know it’s unfair to expect anything when I haven’t had the guts to ask them to act differently but it still majorly sucks
It is not unfair. You should hold these fools in disdain. They are spiritually barren and have nothing to offer you
These fools are my coworkers! But it is the same conciliatory attitude I took towards family after having come out, so probably best to nip that reflex in the bud. At least some women there are starting to clock me, that’s nice :)
Seconding on that fakeness/hollowness. Really hard for cis people to understand just how deep dysphoria goes.
Them not understanding is so frustrating, I’ve tried talking to a couple of them about my voice dysphoria, which seems really understandable to me but they didn’t get it at all. Or were just trying to make me feel better about my voice instead of validating me.
In my understanding they are trying to comfort you but since they niether understand how it works nor the depth to which it goes their efforts fall short and they don’t take it too seriously.
It’s almost like the way parents treat their children’s concerns. At best it’s a half serious token thing. Although maybe this is not how you see it.
No I think that’s a pretty good assessment of the situation. Thank you summing it up like that helps me understand it better.
Do I have some kind of projected dysphoria? I felt that every interaction felt fake and hollow and understood I was talking to fake and hollow people.
Got excited because I thought I saw a missing cat, took a photo and ran back to the poster I thought was for but turns out different cat. I thought I cracked the case but guess I’m back to hitting the dirt roads again
Yes, detective. Speaking of cracked cases, there is a murder investigation going on here in Martinaise, maybe we could get back to this. It’s possible we find this missing cat along the way.
[Logic, tirvial, failure] It is possible the cat is involved in the murder.
[Esprit de Corps, moderate, failure] Do not rat out this cat.
[Electrochemistry, heroic, success] In veterinary medicine, cats are often anesthesized with ketamine.
I just need a few extra experience point to get my next skill point, I can’t keep living with anarcho-bidenist-kamalain thought anymore 
Just found out my mom’s on E and prog lol. Apparently has been helping her mood and sleep.
Same though
Multiple cis friends dealing with (peri) menopause have told me they want my HRT if I have some to spare. There’s solidarity there. Hormones are powerful. Menopause is intense.
It’s almost as if we’re women too, if you think about it.
I know lots of peri and post-menopausal women and the amount of time I put my head in my hands and mutter “they’re hon-dosing the menopause girlies too!”
I’d have been way too tempted for my own good to come out by saying “me too” lmao
Earlier we were joking around about how she’s in a better mood and less overstimulated with how loud my younger siblings are, and she literally told me I should try E 😭 I was fucking dying
That’s so damn funny
I can’t tell you how funny it was. Literally out of a sketch or something.
“Hmm, maybe you’re right 🤔 “
Had a complete asshole patient tonight 😑. Weirdest insult I got from him, he called me malevolent and asked if I knew what that meant. But he was also good about my pronouns and had some gendered slurs to call me too, so ups and downs
Gender affirming asshole?
He was actually very good about my pronouns lol, so either I passed or that
So wierd to be mean to your healthcare provider. Like dude, this woman’s got scary needles to jab you with.
I was thinking of this, but it’s a different name.
In another life I had a patient misgender me then correct himself and proceed to berate me for - whatever it was he was going on about. Man was too angry about the co-pay on his Jardiance (or whatever) and the incompetence of All Women Everywhere Ever to get derailed by having bungled my pronouns.
Subscribe? I’m more of a domscribe the way I make her 🥺 when she reads my letters 💌
Got catcalled by a (presumably) lesbian today, she called me a dyke, among other things
Delightfully gender affirming, like, yes, you’re right! I think she took my surprise for offense because she came back over to apologize (still called me ma’am hehehehe)I haven’t tried really feminine outfits in public, but I keep being explicitly gendered as a woman when I’m
trying lessmixing accessories w masc clothing… much to considerfound out my landlord has been giving my info to the government for census without mentioning nor asking and i have no clue what questions she’s answering for me (did she use my legal or chosen name, jot me down as cis or trans, man or woman, common law or single, and who fucking knows what else). actually quite stressed and frustrated abt this. i keep my relationship off paper cause i’m worried my social assistance would be cut or reduced. also just in general i would like to decide for myself what info i give the government i’m actually pissed :(
Showed off my jacket to my friend (I wasn’t wearing it, I just picked it up and showed). He told me “I don’t know if you realise it has some features considered feminine in germany”.
My dude you know I’m on E do you genuinely think this was an accident???
Bright side: I trust his fashion sense and he didn’t tell me it looked dumb so that’s a win.
(He hasn’t changed how he treats me so I’m fine with him being kinda dumb about this stuff)
He told me “I don’t know if you realise it has some features considered feminine in germany”
This is the most German response to a woman wearing women’s clothing I’ve ever heard
Telling girls “your jacket has some features considered feminine in Germany” is, indeed, my favorite way of being gender affirming.
WARNING: This jacket contains features known to the nation of Germany to exhibit femininity
Presumably there’s a DIN standard somewhere. Or a Weiblichemeekmalenjackenherstellungvorschriftensgesetz.
I’ve certainly added it to my vocabulary now
Get friends that will make a transphobe regret existing near you
