[a sign reads FEMINIST CONFERENCE next to a closed door, a blue character shrugs and says…]
I don’t care
[next to the same door, the sign now says RESTRICTED FEMINIST CONFERENCE WOMEN ONLY, there are now four blue characters desperately banging on the door, one is reduced to tears on the floor, they are shouting]
DISCRIMINATION
SO UNFAIR!!!
LET US IINN!!
MISANDRY
With that sub I think the problem is when the posts end up in all, which really does fit badly with the structure - then people comment without realizing which community because you tend to forget to check every now and then (or don’t even read side bars at all because there’s so many, so won’t know until you make the mistake of posting there), which then causes those unnecessary whoopsies and extra mod-work.
I fully agree that lemmy is annoyingly misogynistic which in turn means blocking that community only makes the feeds even more male-centric. I don’t know what would solve this
I think it’s fine that people accidentally comment and mods have to do the extra work, it allows the community to stay open for women to be able to find. That was how I found it.
The easiest solution is, when a man gets told that it’s a space for women, he can just say “Oops, sorry about that” and move on, that is how most men respond when asked to not comment there. Its the men who have awful reactions and get argumentative that since a post came up in all, they should be allowed to join and comment whenever they want. Which is just silly.
If they don’t mind all the accidental commenters there, then there’s no issue I guess? And I fully agree that it is stupid to get all pissy about being politely asked to leave, even if you disagree with a mod policy like that. Just walk away and don’t be a jerk, it’s not that hard jesus christ.
And yes I’ve made the mistake of commenting there too, so I know what lead to that lmao. Though I’m not a man and wasn’t asked to leave, so it’s not exactly the same
Accidental commenters get things explained nicely to them - have a look at any hot post on the comm. You’ll see the copypaste response .
How they respond to that public mod reply is on them.
Yeah I was more worried about all the work that it requires to do, since all the posts I see are basically the very popular ones, and I don’t know how they recognize the unwanted posters without it taking a lot too. I’ve seen topics with a lot of those responses and that seems very frustrating for the mods and the community itself - especially if there’s plenty of the entitled jerks. But if it’s not a problem for the community, then there is no problem
You would be surprised how many individuals find this too difficult lol
Yeah, I mean it would be nice for folks to read the rules, but as long as they don’t get nasty when being asked to not comment, it’s not an issue. From what I see hanging out there, it doesn’t seem to be a big deal most of the time. Mods just say their thing and the convo moves on. If the community were marked as private, many women, myself included, likely never would have found that space.