• GargleBlaster@feddit.org
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    8 months ago

    The male thing seems so (finally) die out in younger generations. Just give people compliments, spread happiness. The world’s already fucked up enough for gods sake

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      8 months ago

      Nicely written comment bro, you look marvelous today

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      8 months ago

      I’m in my mid thirties, me and my friends always have been like this. We also cuddle sometimes, always have. When we had movie nights we would have what we’d call the puppy pile - just put your head on my shoulder bro.

      We didn’t even know it was unusual until a friend visited with his gf while we had movie night and she was endeared when she saw the puppy pile “I love how comfortable you all are with each other!” - “What do you mean?”

      Cuddle your bros, bros! It’s nice :)

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          I agree, my only contention is: not something important. Something fundamental to existence. Humans are primates, and touch is one of the most natural interactions a primate has. It is calming, safety, belonging.

          A recent study I saw on science alert talked about how “men experience touching their partners as one of the best solutions to their anxiety”. Yeah, no shit, the sun also rises in the morning lol just my 2 cents

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          I get you, but there’s also implicit trust in a cuddle. I’m farsighted so my personal space extends like 20 feet away (where my eyes start to be able to focus) and if I can’t see you well without my glasses on, you’re in it.

          Having a 20 foot sphere of personal space is ridiculous, so I’ve just gotten used to people being in my space. Five feet away could just as well be snuggling if I’m uncomfortable with you.

          All that said, the improv group i used to be in had a regular bad movie night. There’s always be at least fifteen people in a cuddle puddle. Sometimes I miss that.

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          Never ever have I felt any urge to touch someone I’m not sexually attracted to, not when drunk, not when high. I’d feel very uncomfortable in a group like this. Hated hugs since I was a kid.

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      8 months ago

      One of my mentors taught me that when you think of a genuine compliment, you should give it. I mean figure out how to make it but creepy (no “hey girl you shit with that ass?”) but genuine compliments brighten people’s day and that spreads (kind of like how when someone is an asshole to us enough to make us in a bad mood, we spread it around)