it’s hot. also i’m growing cacti from seed which is new to me and i’m excited, a few of them are sprouting now. how are you?

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  • Jenniferrr [she/her, comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
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    6 days ago

    It’s an unfortunate reality but a ton ton ton of people don’t actually reach out to make plans even though they are my friends. I generally make things happen. I know who my friends are because they show up when I invite them :)

    I have found that with people with similar interests (lots of my friends climb) I just made a group chat with everyone and am like “Hello everyone I am climbing today at this location and this time, come join me!!” And I usually get a few people. They’re not always the same people either so I get a lot of quality time with different friends this way, while leaving it completely up to them to show up or not.

    I’m sorry you deal with understanding social cues, there’s a lot of nuance and it’s pretty subtle :/ the way I go about it is if I like hanging out with a person I’ll reach out to them and ask if they want to do something. If they reject me a few times without trying to set something up I just give up