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  • Dispossessed [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
    3·
    11 days ago
    sex stuff

    Have you tried clitoral stimulation with toys? That can be a really powerful tool for someone with a vulva who has trouble with penetration. My partner really likes the ones that sortof form a seal around and “suck” but there are also many kinds of small, discrete vibes too. The big thing is that your partner could be in control of that part so there would be less anxiety about something hurting her.

    There is a condition called vaginismus that can cause pain during penetration, it is often caused by trauma and it can take a lot of work to improve. My partner has trauma from SA in the past and the big thing that helps her is to be in control, especially in the beginning while everything’s getting into the mood.

    Good luck comrade.

    • transbyanism [they/them, comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
      1·
      9 days ago
      spoiler

      Yeah we did use two types of vibrators and they work well! Most of the time, sometimes she gets oversensitive quick and/or overstimulated with them, depends.

      I did not hear of vaginismus, I talked to her and well she matches this like 100%. Thank you a lot for telling me! We’re very grateful. My partner does not have any SA trauma but a very religious upbringing and such. Thanks again!!