One thing to add: if you can manage to project confidence you will almost never be questioned on your way out if you strike up a conversation with the greeter or a uniformed security guard on your way out. Unless you’re being tailed like I’m the example above, of course.
I cannot possibly stress enough to anyone i talk to about these things the importance of your vibe. Many people, especially people raised in a strict home, operate under the assumption that society operates on a basis of rules, when in reality it operates far more on a basis of vibes, with the rules existing on top of that foundation as a way of codifying and modulating the vibes. If your vibes are good and you don’t stick out to them, you’ll just be a forgettable part of their expected boring work flow. I watch a guy on youtube who used to be a homeless addict, and he said this about blending in: most people want to believe what they see. So if you show them what they want to believe, that’s what they’ll see.
I think about this frequently when i think about mental illness, the mentally ill, etc. I frequently think of Robert Pirsig speaking about how insanity is viewed
“He was insane. And when you look directly at an insane man all you see is a reflection of your own knowledge that he’s insane, which is not to see him at all. To see him you must see what he saw and when you are trying to see the vision of an insane man, an oblique route is the only way to come at it.”
In a way it’s an admission of the speaker that they’re unable to understand the thinking of the person they’re seeing as insane. They feel their own confusion towards what the other thinks and call it the other person’s insanity. I see it as people essentially saying “I do not understand you, and I don’t respect you enough to try.” Whereas the same person confronted by the same behaviors or thinking patterns in individuals they are socially conditioned to respect would be more likely to think of them as eccentric instead, just weird, but perhaps worth figuring out rather than pathologizing
Anyway I’m thinking about getting a haircut before i see a new doctor tomorrow for unrelated reasons, i should probably shave too
Lmao did this the other day. Went to the salad bar at a whole foods. Rang up a fat salad while weighing my wallet, had a beer in each of my inside jacket pockets. Smiled at the security guard and told him to have a good afternoon. Bam free lunch and a couple cold ones to go with it.
Yeah they don’t have that at the place by me, but I also wanted to look innocuous paying and leaving since I had like $14 worth of craft beers in my coat too lol
One thing to add: if you can manage to project confidence you will almost never be questioned on your way out if you strike up a conversation with the greeter or a uniformed security guard on your way out. Unless you’re being tailed like I’m the example above, of course.
I cannot possibly stress enough to anyone i talk to about these things the importance of your vibe. Many people, especially people raised in a strict home, operate under the assumption that society operates on a basis of rules, when in reality it operates far more on a basis of vibes, with the rules existing on top of that foundation as a way of codifying and modulating the vibes. If your vibes are good and you don’t stick out to them, you’ll just be a forgettable part of their expected boring work flow. I watch a guy on youtube who used to be a homeless addict, and he said this about blending in: most people want to believe what they see. So if you show them what they want to believe, that’s what they’ll see.
Good luck if you look even slightly out of the ordinary though.
So fuck me still wearing a mask
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I think about this frequently when i think about mental illness, the mentally ill, etc. I frequently think of Robert Pirsig speaking about how insanity is viewed
In a way it’s an admission of the speaker that they’re unable to understand the thinking of the person they’re seeing as insane. They feel their own confusion towards what the other thinks and call it the other person’s insanity. I see it as people essentially saying “I do not understand you, and I don’t respect you enough to try.” Whereas the same person confronted by the same behaviors or thinking patterns in individuals they are socially conditioned to respect would be more likely to think of them as eccentric instead, just weird, but perhaps worth figuring out rather than pathologizing
Anyway I’m thinking about getting a haircut before i see a new doctor tomorrow for unrelated reasons, i should probably shave too
Interesting, thank you for this. Do you have a link to Pirsig’s speech or do you know the title so I can look it up?
It’s part of zen and the art of motorcycle maintenance
Ooooh my dad kept suggesting I read that. Haven’t picked it up yet
Lmao did this the other day. Went to the salad bar at a whole foods. Rang up a fat salad while weighing my wallet, had a beer in each of my inside jacket pockets. Smiled at the security guard and told him to have a good afternoon. Bam free lunch and a couple cold ones to go with it.
Hell yeah.
I like the ones where they have the option of paying for the hot food bar at the deli counter. Just walk out life i already paid
Yeah they don’t have that at the place by me, but I also wanted to look innocuous paying and leaving since I had like $14 worth of craft beers in my coat too lol