I forgot that it’s my mega week so no big info dump this time. Instead I bring a question: how do you practice gender self-care? Do you have any activities or rituals that make you feel more comfortable in your gender? Painting my nails and taking care of my hair are the most consistent ones. These shouldn’t even be considered gendered activities by society, but I missed out on having long hair and painted nails when I was younger because of my assigned gender, so doing them now feels validating and gives me confidence.

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    • SerialExperimentsGay [she/her, she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
      18·
      16 days ago

      You’re not being dramatic, people who obsess over our genitals are a plague. Honestly doesn’t matter which way, but after half of my friend group got bottom surgery and i’ve seen over and over again how many gatekeeping hoops we had to jump through, how much work friends of mine who went for vaginoplasty instead of an orchi still put into recovering, how much relief the entire thing brings them and how little cissies understand any of that, i have a particular soft spot for the girls who’ve gotten their soft spot. Not to discount the struggles of any woman with a dick, i’m one myself, i have to worry way too much about that, but i’ll fight tooth and nail for my friends who fought for their right to have a pussy. It’s just nobody’s business what’s in our pants. Even people who want to date us hands-down don’t get to ask anything besides “do i have to keep bottom dysphoria in mind or not”. That’s literally all that matters when somebody wants to go down on a trans girl and if they wonder about anything else they do not deserve to breathe the same air as us.

      • rando895 [she/her]@lemmygrad.ml
        16·
        17 days ago

        Ngl after being sexually harassed and sexually obsessed over, getting bottom surgery is going to bring me a level of peace I didn’t expect from it.