Even if I had low self-esteem and still wanted to try to have class solidarity with the working class, you can’t have solidarity if they largely don’t respect you

  • Transitioning hasn’t really changed my political beliefs, but it has made me more scared of people, so I certainly reach out to people less than I otherwise would be because of it, which means my real-world actions unfortunately don’t really align with those beliefs. I see that as my shortcoming though: it’s an area I need to improve on. It’s fine to be resentful, but radicalism should include a desire to uplift the lives of even shitty people imo.

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      Transitioning hasn’t really changed my political beliefs, but it has made me more scared of people, so I certainly reach out to people less than I otherwise would

      Yeah, I’m fairly similar. Politically, being trans has only radicalized me more. Socially, being trans has made me less trustful of certain people. Cis women in particular have been especially shitty to me for some reason, and that’s hard to deal with.

      Thankfully, that stuff doesn’t usually come up in my organizing work though.

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        for some reason

        They’re scared of you. They don’t want you in their washrooms. They don’t see you as a woman. Cis women are not really allies on average

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          Yes, but I guess what frustrates me is that this isn’t just from random cis women.

          These are women I know, are ostensibly friends with, and who offered to help me transition. I’ve had people help me with something once or twice, and then get increasingly hostile over time.

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            Probably either jealously you’ve become more feminine/attractive than they thought you ever would or they were just being nice at first and got tired of the act

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              Nah, definitely not jealously. I’ve kinda stagnated in my transition, for lack of help. Transitioning is hard enough as it is, and I’m colorblind on top of that. So things like clothes or makeup are really difficult for me.

              Being nice is probably it, tbh. I’ve had women offer to help me, and later turn around and act bewildered that I actually asked for help. Like the request is unreasonable, even though they offered.