Even if we grant that my gender is intrinsic (which I don’t, see my next paragraph), your comment doesn’t address the root of the issue. The root of the issue is that you think there’s a difference between someone performing their gender “properly” (in your eyes) and someone who is, well, I’m having a hard time summing up your position, because I think it’s pretty fucked up, but the other option, I guess, is someone who is presenting themselves in a way you think is weird, and you think they’re lying? Mistaken? What are we going for here? I don’t think there’s such a difference, as you can tell, since I’m struggling to even articulate the second thing.
Ok, so onto the gender being intrinsic situation: I could have very probably lived my whole life as a woman and been pretty ok. Also, my gender isn’t one such that top surgery is entirely a given. In a different world, I would still have rather large tits, and not these giant scars across my chest. I absolutely reject the framing that any of this is intrinsic, at least for myself.
Listen, homie, I think something’s just not connecting here. Obviously we have different points of view. I respect what you’re saying, and I can tell it comes from a good place.
I don’t really want to take more time trying to dissect my internal logic, as fun as it’s been. I’ve just got too much other shit going on to get more introspective. I do appreciate the points you’ve made though.
I get that introspection is hard, it really is, and I can’t force you to do it if you’re unwilling.
But as a stop gap, maybe keep your criticisms and mockery of the way people look as internal thoughts that you do not speak or write where other people can hear or see them.
I’ve chosen to get top surgery. Making fun of my chest is fair game
Yes, but your gender is intrinsic.
Even if we grant that my gender is intrinsic (which I don’t, see my next paragraph), your comment doesn’t address the root of the issue. The root of the issue is that you think there’s a difference between someone performing their gender “properly” (in your eyes) and someone who is, well, I’m having a hard time summing up your position, because I think it’s pretty fucked up, but the other option, I guess, is someone who is presenting themselves in a way you think is weird, and you think they’re lying? Mistaken? What are we going for here? I don’t think there’s such a difference, as you can tell, since I’m struggling to even articulate the second thing.
Ok, so onto the gender being intrinsic situation: I could have very probably lived my whole life as a woman and been pretty ok. Also, my gender isn’t one such that top surgery is entirely a given. In a different world, I would still have rather large tits, and not these giant scars across my chest. I absolutely reject the framing that any of this is intrinsic, at least for myself.
Listen, homie, I think something’s just not connecting here. Obviously we have different points of view. I respect what you’re saying, and I can tell it comes from a good place.
I don’t really want to take more time trying to dissect my internal logic, as fun as it’s been. I’ve just got too much other shit going on to get more introspective. I do appreciate the points you’ve made though.
I get that introspection is hard, it really is, and I can’t force you to do it if you’re unwilling.
But as a stop gap, maybe keep your criticisms and mockery of the way people look as internal thoughts that you do not speak or write where other people can hear or see them.