• TheMuffinMan@piefed.world
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    5 days ago

    I have this friend that I invite over sometimes, but he has this habit of extending that invite to mutual friends without telling me, and so I’ll suddenly have 2 or 3 people rocking up to my place unexpectedly.

    It drives me absolutely bananas. It was supposed to be a low-key hang out and now I have to come up with group activities on the spot.

    • kolmaskommentoija@sopuli.xyz
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      4 days ago

      That is unacceptable behavior, and I am quite sure many neurotypicals would also agree, even though it definitely depends on the cultural context as well. At least here it is just extremely rude to bring more quests without asking the host first, or at least telling them beforehand, unless you specifically have that type of relationship, or the invite was clearly open. That is like intentionally trying to embarass you in front of their other friends, as you might not have enough food, or drink, or other things prepared. That person would not be my friend afterwards.

    • Caveman@lemmy.world
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      4 days ago

      Oh my god, this resonates hard. When I go over and the plan is to play board games but somehow it ends up having a group of 7 where the ideal group is 4 and I don’t have 7 Wonders to play. It always ends up just drinking and talking because the group is too big to do anything.