I forgot that it’s my mega week so no big info dump this time. Instead I bring a question: how do you practice gender self-care? Do you have any activities or rituals that make you feel more comfortable in your gender? Painting my nails and taking care of my hair are the most consistent ones. These shouldn’t even be considered gendered activities by society, but I missed out on having long hair and painted nails when I was younger because of my assigned gender, so doing them now feels validating and gives me confidence.

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  • tithonis [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    21 天前

    I gotta say, having spent far too long in a relationship with someone who didn’t respect me for who I am, and speaking on behalf of everyone I know who has escaped a similar situation:

    Whatever the consequences are, staying in the closet/tolerating the abuse any longer than you absolutely have to is so, so, so much worse than you think it might be. ::: spoiler abuse It took me a year to escape once I had my mind made up for good. I’d known on some level I needed to get out for a few years before that but I was isolated from my friends and family. I tried to proceed in secret, things blew up anyways, and now a year out on the other side of it I finally have a life worth living. :::

    Do whatever you have to do, for you. Transitioning will show you really quick who your friends really are and aren’t. Someone who loves you won’t demand you stay in the closet for them.