As another trans woman it has been so hard for me to connect with other trans women because of this.

I’m very critical of men and the way they behave in our society, and my cis girl friends and gay male friends almost always agree.

Now every time I bring this up to trans friends they jump to defend men, girl why are you defending men when they’re literally the ones killing trans women and cis women at exponential rates and you’re telling me that men don’t have a problem??

I genuinely don’t understand that need they have to defend men…

  • Katerina@lemmy.zipOPEnglish
    21·
    8 days ago

    I think it’s obvious I’m not dumping all men in the group. The system that creates those problems for men was created by… Oh other men 😂

    I can’t see a way the manosphere can be justified, sorry, I went through some wild shit is a kid and I’m not doing the trash men do.

    • Vergissmeinnicht@lemmy.caEnglish
      2·
      7 days ago

      I think it’s obvious I’m not dumping all men in the group.

      Are you making it obvious to the people you’re talking to who get defensive of men?

      If you say “men” and are thinking of the majority of men who are toxic or tolerate other’s toxic behaviour, but the person you’re talking to hears “men” and is thinking of their amazing ally dad and brother, then the problem is that you’re essentially speaking different languages.

    • applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      3·
      8 days ago

      oh the manosphere is totally unjustified. that shit is fucked and hurts everyone. im just saying theres a reason so many men end up there. acknowledging the nuances of problems doesnt mean they arent problems.

    • Kellenved@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      2·
      7 days ago

      Yes men created the system but it was a tiny number who did this and lots of men such as myself are just as unhappy with the system more powerful and older men built for everyone. I had no say in it and I’ve been fighting against it all my life.