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Admin of lemmy.blahaj.zone

I can also be found on the microblog fediverse at @ada@blahaj.zone or on matrix at @ada:chat.blahaj.zone

  • Uber is letting women avoid male drivers and riders in the US

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  • Why can't we just support equality for everyone? Why is that so hard?

    At least part of it is because of people like you who get upset whenever someone challenges the grossly inequitous status quo.

  • Owl X-ray Time

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  • No Mr Owl, I expect you to thrive!

  • Owl X-ray Time

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  • This looks like the owl asked for grapes at the lemonade stall one too many times...

  • is there a dedicated directory for hair on the ThreadiVerse?

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  • You could use asklemmy or something similar

  • Fetcharr - a human-developed Huntarr replacement

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  • They do, but only by passively monitoring RSS feeds for new content that exceeds your current quality. They don't do active upgrade searches unless you manually trigger them.

    The distinction is important if you imported some or all of your media library, rather than building it from scratch with the arr stack stuff. It also matters if you source some your content via providers that don't have RSS feeds.

  • Are there any communities on Lemmy that are geared towards feminine queer men?

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  • Meet Graham - The only person designed to survive on our roads

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  • Graham needs multiple rows of nipples to survive low impact crashes?

  • can i search lemmy on google like i do with reddit?

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  • Kagi has a fediverse search

  • What is a common stereotype about your country or your ancestors’ country(ies) that just isn’t true?

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  • Yep. Thus demonstrating the stereotype :)

  • What’s your most controversial opinion?

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  • Believe it or not, you don't speak for all everyone who isn't' cis.

    The only person in this conversation trying to speak for all trans people is the person you're defending

    It's telling that the only fault you see is in the voice of a trans person defending themselves, and not in the voice of the person saying that trans people don't actually exist, they're just people confused about stereotypes

  • What’s your most controversial opinion?

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  • Go and re-read the post of the guy you're defending.

    His opening sentence was literally "Being mtf or ftm trans is conforming to gender stereotypes with extra steps"

    He is quite openly saying that without gender stereotypes, trans people wouldn't exist, and that trans people are really just folk who are too caught up in gender stereotypes. He continues to express that opinion even after trans people directly and openly talk about their identity and how it is distinct from stereotypes.

    I've been having these discussions for a decade or more now. I know red flags, I know dog whistles, and I know why those things are problematic. And to be frank, you don't.

  • Is this a blue, gray-blue, or gray eye?

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  • Hazel has to have brown in the mix somewhere though

  • What’s your most controversial opinion?

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  • What I care about is people who aren't trans, trying to erase trans people, by blaming them for the system that oppresses them, whilst letting themselves off the hook for propping up the same system.

  • What’s your most controversial opinion?

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  • No, what he's saying that being trans is "conforming to gender stereotypes" and that if we got rid of stereotypes, trans people would be able to express themselves how they want, without having to be trans.

    Which is to say, he's suggesting that trans women are all trying to be feminine, and if there was a way for men to be feminine without societal push back, trans women wouldn't need to exist. He doesn't explicitly state the last bit, but that's what he really means, and it's why he considers his position controversial

    When I made a post going in to detail about the lack of relevance feminine gender stereotypes have to my day to day life, despite the fact that I'm transgender, he largely ignored it, despite that being the basis of his "opinion"

  • What’s your most controversial opinion?

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  • It was absolutely a judgement, because it's an opinion you shared in a "what's your controversial opinion" thread. if you didn't carry judgement within your opinion, you wouldn't be sharing it here.

    I will also highlight that you ignored pretty much the bulk of my post, where I expressly highlight my rejection of stereotypes, and my lack of understanding them, and their implicit lack of relationship with my identity, to focus on a single sentence that provided literally no detail to exclaim the veracity of your claim.

    You came in with an opinion that puts the onus for fixing the harm caused by gender stereotypes on trans people, despite trans people being less in a position to challenge that system than you are, whilst being more aggressively punished for challenging it than you are. You ignored the voices of trans people telling you about their experience and relationship, whilst never owning your own responsibility and involvement in the system.

    So no, you were not "observing". You were judging and holding trans people to a higher standard than you hold yourself.

  • What’s your most controversial opinion?

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  • I'm trans. I'm a woman. I don't have my ears pierced, I rarely wear makeup, I don't do my nails, I haven't shaved my legs in coming up on 2 years. I don't understand femininity, and I perform it to the bare minimum standard, because if I don't, I face extra exclusion, hostility and questioning.

    What I'm trying to get at, is that I don't really care about "expressing myself". Abolishing gender stereotypes would absolutely make my life easier, and I guarantee I'm doing more to undo the power they hold over people than you ever will, whilst you sit there and judge trans people for upholding the system that punishes them far more than it will ever punish you.

  • I'm sure a good lot of you, like me, had been anticipating/dreading that moment when we say, oh fuck this is it, for real. Like the BIG oh fuck. My question is, how ready are you?

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  • Sucks that I wouldn't be able to shitpost about it, though.

    That's what mesh networking is for

  • How university life in Australia has changed

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  • I really hated the forced face to face time they wax nostalgic over in that article. Lectures that you had to attend in person and couldn't easily access after they were done, tutorial sessions where part of your final grade was received just for turning up, creating tutorials full of people who didn't want to be there and tutors trying to juggle so many people they couldn't meaningfully tutor anyone, effectively making it an enforced private study session...

    I did not love my time at uni...

  • How does genital nomenclature change as a person transitions? Edit: answered. Thanks all!

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  • You know your friend better than we do. Do what you think is right, and make sure you're open to accepting that you'll get it wrong sometimes, and then self correct.

  • Trans @lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    Rule 3 - Don't post negative, depressing news articles about trans issues unless there is a call to action or a way to help.

  • Nonbinary @lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    This community needs new mods

  • Superbowl @lemmy.world
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    Tawny Frogmouth (Not technically an owl, so don't tell the mods :P)

  • birding @lemmy.world
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    White-bellied Sea-Eagle (Icthyophaga leucogaster)

  • birding @lemmy.world
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    Planning a heist

  • birding @lemmy.world
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    Nesting Ospreys (Pandion haliaetus)

  • Transmasc @lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    Transmasc needs mods

  • Brisbane @aussie.zone
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    Kerala’s first-ever light tram project, inspired by Brisbane model, proposed for Kochi’s non-metro areas

    english.mathrubhumi.com /news/kerala/keralas-first-ever-light-tram-project-inspired-by-brisbane-model-proposed-for-kochis-non-metro-areas-ykbqu6de
  • DRONES @lemmy.world
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    Mavic 4 Pro details confirmed!

  • Photography @lemmy.ml
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    Variable Oystercatchers (Haematopus unicolor) - Carters Beach, Aotearoa/New Zealand, February 2025

  • Photography @lemmy.ml
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    Did someone say ducks?

  • 196 @lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    Community made 196 alternative - !onehundredninetysix@lemmy.blahaj.zone

  • unixsocks on fediverse @lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    Updated: Unixsocks no longer needs new mods

  • pics @lemmy.world
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    Carancho (Caracara plancus) - Reserva Ecológica Costanera Sur, Buenos Aires, Argentina - Deciembre 2023

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    Nicolás Mihanovich

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    Riverfire 2024, Brisbane, Australia

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    Meanjin

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    Riverfire, 2024 - Brisbane, Australia

  • Transmasc @lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    Blahaj Zone matrix space for gender diverse folk (now with corrected links)

  • Trans @lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    Blahaj Zone matrix space for gender diverse folk (now with corrected links)