Libido, not sure does it fall under mental health issue, but I’ve narrowed it down to phycology as i have gone through all the physical and many hormonal fixes for it without any changes.
Im a guy and missing one of the most stereotypical aspect guys have. That’s kinda emasculating and i obviously overcompensate and of course this guarantees permanent relationship issues
Overall, It’s complicated. Probably closest fit is responsive vs spontaneous desire model.
Likely spontaneous desire.
I can easily forget that sex exist, in addition it takes nearly perfect conditions and good timing just to be receptive of getting turned on.
Life is rarely perfect and it takes actual effort to set everything up for those perfect conditions. Often times there just isn’t enough energy or time left to even get started to get into the mood.
I’ve never in my whole life been able to feel pleasure masturbating (and so I’ve never tried sex). I only seem to get turned on in very niche circumstances, and it has always been fleeting. Been like that my whole life. I’ve always had FOMO with it. Yeah, there is the label “asexual” and blah blah blah…but it’s like every piece of media and every human in your life seems to be able to get this amazing rush of endorphins and I can’t. I just wish I could experience it.
Cant tell for sure as it wasn’t that much of an issue when i was younger so i really didn’t have to turn much attention to it.
It was most definitely easier when i was younger. Kinda like more receptive and it was easier to go along.
One guess was that maybe life has gotten just busier over the years, but it has remained pretty much the same busy for nearly 15 years. Overall load has been probably even reduced due to kids being older now and not working 2 jobs.
The physical pleasure is most definitely there and sometimes even mental/psychological pleasure, but there’s absolutely no drive to reengage, even though i logically know it is pleasurable.
I have heard and been browsing communities and googling about asexuality too and that seems to be mostly about attraction, which is an emotion and I’m really really bad at detecting those and as asexuality is kinda final i will avoid that for as long as possible.
Ah ok. If this happened in later life, then I wouldn’t say it has anything related to the asexuality label. Reads a bit more like depression to me tbh.
Not specifically later in life, i just didn’t give enough attention to it before to be able to notice it. It could have been there since the beginning, just masked by other factors. Internal working is a rather complicated and confusing subject and can easily take years or more to pinpoint the origin, why or how something works and how different factors influence it.
Sex and libido goes under it, i need months to years worth of observational data to notice specific behavioral habits and trends and then collate all the information to form some sort of a theory.
I doubt it’s depression, I’ve have had that one before. After i quit alcohol(borderline alcoholism), so i have comparison material how that functions in my body and behavior, neither there are any other symptoms of depression. Energy levels are up, mood is ok, bloodwork is ok, motivation is ok, picked up new hobbies over the years, no depressive taughts, I’ve even learned to notice and redirect negative spiraling, sleep is as good as it can get with shift work.
Hmm I dunno then. Interestingly, there are actually a couple of drugs out there for women with low sexual desire if it bothers them in an attempt to help it. Idk how well they work and to my knowledge, I don’t know if there are any for men. I mean, obviously there are erectile dysfunction meds for men, but I don’t know that they impact desire.
That’s useful, though second link is behind a user requirement, but it seems to be talking about prolactin and dopamine levels. Prolactin levels are within reference range, i did add those to the regular bloodwork just to be sure.
Though the meds on the first link are a new information, thank you.
Neither of those seem to be approved for use in men, that sucks. Once again have to turn to underground sources.
And that’s the part that sucks, if you’re a guy with libido issues it’s only hormone therapy or ED meds, if those won’t do anything then you’re shit out of luck, just STFU and man up.
Libido, not sure does it fall under mental health issue, but I’ve narrowed it down to phycology as i have gone through all the physical and many hormonal fixes for it without any changes.
Im a guy and missing one of the most stereotypical aspect guys have. That’s kinda emasculating and i obviously overcompensate and of course this guarantees permanent relationship issues
Overall, It’s complicated. Probably closest fit is responsive vs spontaneous desire model.
Likely spontaneous desire. I can easily forget that sex exist, in addition it takes nearly perfect conditions and good timing just to be receptive of getting turned on. Life is rarely perfect and it takes actual effort to set everything up for those perfect conditions. Often times there just isn’t enough energy or time left to even get started to get into the mood.
Did you used to be able to and now you can’t?
I’ve never in my whole life been able to feel pleasure masturbating (and so I’ve never tried sex). I only seem to get turned on in very niche circumstances, and it has always been fleeting. Been like that my whole life. I’ve always had FOMO with it. Yeah, there is the label “asexual” and blah blah blah…but it’s like every piece of media and every human in your life seems to be able to get this amazing rush of endorphins and I can’t. I just wish I could experience it.
Cant tell for sure as it wasn’t that much of an issue when i was younger so i really didn’t have to turn much attention to it.
It was most definitely easier when i was younger. Kinda like more receptive and it was easier to go along.
One guess was that maybe life has gotten just busier over the years, but it has remained pretty much the same busy for nearly 15 years. Overall load has been probably even reduced due to kids being older now and not working 2 jobs.
The physical pleasure is most definitely there and sometimes even mental/psychological pleasure, but there’s absolutely no drive to reengage, even though i logically know it is pleasurable.
I have heard and been browsing communities and googling about asexuality too and that seems to be mostly about attraction, which is an emotion and I’m really really bad at detecting those and as asexuality is kinda final i will avoid that for as long as possible.
Ah ok. If this happened in later life, then I wouldn’t say it has anything related to the asexuality label. Reads a bit more like depression to me tbh.
Not specifically later in life, i just didn’t give enough attention to it before to be able to notice it. It could have been there since the beginning, just masked by other factors. Internal working is a rather complicated and confusing subject and can easily take years or more to pinpoint the origin, why or how something works and how different factors influence it.
Sex and libido goes under it, i need months to years worth of observational data to notice specific behavioral habits and trends and then collate all the information to form some sort of a theory.
I doubt it’s depression, I’ve have had that one before. After i quit alcohol(borderline alcoholism), so i have comparison material how that functions in my body and behavior, neither there are any other symptoms of depression. Energy levels are up, mood is ok, bloodwork is ok, motivation is ok, picked up new hobbies over the years, no depressive taughts, I’ve even learned to notice and redirect negative spiraling, sleep is as good as it can get with shift work.
Hmm I dunno then. Interestingly, there are actually a couple of drugs out there for women with low sexual desire if it bothers them in an attempt to help it. Idk how well they work and to my knowledge, I don’t know if there are any for men. I mean, obviously there are erectile dysfunction meds for men, but I don’t know that they impact desire.
That’s interesting, usually from male perspective the only meds that get recommended are testosterone or yeah ED meds.
Sadly ED meds have no effect on desire, though those do give a nice pump in the gym. In addition to improved boners.
And I’m already on TRT in attempts to fix it. After dialing in the dosages and frequency, i was back in square one.
Though I’ll most definitely take a look at drugs that are supposed to increase desire in women and how those are supposed to work.
https://www.quora.com/What-drugs-make-people-horny/answer/Franklin-Veaux
https://www.quora.com/What-is-the-neurochemistry-behind-the-total-sexual-disinterest-experienced-after-ejaculation/answer/Franklin-Veaux
That’s useful, though second link is behind a user requirement, but it seems to be talking about prolactin and dopamine levels. Prolactin levels are within reference range, i did add those to the regular bloodwork just to be sure.
Though the meds on the first link are a new information, thank you.
Neither of those seem to be approved for use in men, that sucks. Once again have to turn to underground sources.
And that’s the part that sucks, if you’re a guy with libido issues it’s only hormone therapy or ED meds, if those won’t do anything then you’re shit out of luck, just STFU and man up.
Though still thank you, I’ll keep on digging.