dingus

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dingus @lemmy.world 2h ago
I deliberately use the print as image feature if I don't want someone to be able to select text or search the document (like if I'm sending something with sensitive info as an attachment to an email). Most of the time, I have that option disabled so the document can be searchable and text can be copied from it.

8h ago

Am I holding an unhealthy grudge?

It's difficult, man. It will probably make you happier if you could just forget about it, but brains don't work that way. Plus some people just seem to be way better at it than others.

A mildly traumatic thing happened in my workplace. I have plenty of functional days, but other days things return to my brain without my inviting them and it makes it more difficult to function. Sometimes I get transported back into time like I'm there.

One thing I read about is the concept of mental "time traveling". When we remember these things, it's like we are literally back in that very moment. But that is not what is happening right at this very moment. You are "safe". You are not back in time being harmed right now.

Is it wise to not trust her anymore if she has proven herself to be untrustworthy? Absolutely.

But in order to free yourself better, you have to first notice that you are time traveling. Then look at things in your environment. Not her, but try to take in all of the sensory input around you. Remind yourself that you are here, not there. Recognize that the only time that exists is right now. Even one second in the past no longer exists and even one second in the future doesn't exist yet. Work with what is around you now.

Idk if that is at all helpful, just something that I have read about lately. Way fucking easier said than done because I still struggle.

Wishing you well.

13h ago

BASED?

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dingus @lemmy.world 13h ago

I thought this was a Mickey7 post until I read the username.

1d ago

I will be this old man for the rest of my life

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dingus @lemmy.world 1d ago

I don't have an office job, so it's all good haha. I work in the medical field and have not needed to touch anything like that in years lol.

1d ago

I will be this old man for the rest of my life

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dingus @lemmy.world 1d ago

If it's that simple for people to participate, that sounds good. I'm glad my era of group projects is over, at least! No more classroom work for me!

1d ago

I will be this old man for the rest of my life

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dingus @lemmy.world 1d ago

Haha I'm really glad I missed out on that sort of era tbh. Sounds like a bit of a nightmare.

While I appreciate you providing alternatives, the fact of the matter is that most of your random classmates are unlikely to be interested in using or figuring out how to use some sort of obscure program/website.

1d ago

What made you switch from Reddit to the Lemmy app?

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dingus @lemmy.world 1d ago

Yeah this was it for me. Best app ever...no bullshit ads or anything...and I was really upset that Reddit forcefully killed it for money. However, I did find that the app Red Reader is allowed to exist because of its accessibility features for the visually impaired. It's a good browsing experience...simple and no ads or BS.

I still do browse Reddit because a lot of the communities I visit on there either don't exist on Lemmy or are too underpopulated for much of any content. Please don't tell me to just "post more content" myself. The point is I often don't have much content for the communities I visit. Like it or not, a community with 10 active members just isn't enough to have much to participate with, even if I am the one posting most of the content. For example, there is a tattoo community I stumbled across on Lemmy. But I only have so many tattoos. So obviously I cannot fill the page with endless more content.

1d ago

How to stop work anxiety impacting the rest of my life?

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dingus @lemmy.world 1d ago

I swear I clicked post on a comment here, but idk wtf happened to it. Doesn't look like it was removed in the modlog so I'm confused.

Couple of things...what type of therapy does your therapist use? Does it seem like it's more of a "talk therapy"? Most therapists I've encountered are like this and I have found it not overly helpful. While they are nice for a listening ear, it's hard to find enough substance for me to be able to help myself in practice. What has helped me was finding a therapy program with a specific therapy modality...so I have a way that I can apply it irl. I'd wager that the therapy type is probably less important than the structure. Many therapists claim to use CBT or DBT or whatever else, but when you actually get to the sessions, they don't. In my experience, many are just talk therapists that use vague concepts for these, which I have then had difficulty figuring out ways to help myself irl. Obviously easier said than done to find a therapist with more structure, but that is probably the first direction I'd go tbh. You also have to be very specific and explicit about what you need from therapy in order for them to be able to help you...what you wrote here is great.

Another thing is...have you tried any medications for anxiety by any chance? While therapy definitely is going to be able to do the most heavy lifting, sometimes you need just a little bit more help or a little bit more of a push with psychiatric medications. It's scary, but they are given to millions of people and are not a huge risk. You can always stop them (slowly, not cold turkey) if you feel like they are not helping you. It's not like someone is going in and permanently altering your brain like with surgery.

Best of luck, OP.

1d ago

Does anyone else here suffer from eisoptrophobia and/or spectrophobia?

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dingus @lemmy.world 1d ago

I had this to a mild degree as an older child, but slowly faded over time to where I haven't in a long long while. Do you know specifically why you have recently developed this fear? Figuring out why you are afraid is going to be the key to solving your issue.

1d ago

I will be this old man for the rest of my life

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dingus @lemmy.world 1d ago

Call me a shill, but that's why I always used Google Docs when I was in school. Things are instantly saved and I can easily access them on other devices. It was also always how we collaborated on group projects with the ability of multiple people to simultaneously edit power points in a collaborative project.

I don't have use for word processing anymore, but I used Google Docs from like 2012-2020.

Definitely helped a ton because my laptop in grad school would randomly blue screen a lot for no discernible reason. Did that when it was new too and Dell support was no help. I have a suspicion that the processor was actually faulty on a hardware level straight from the factory...as it would have problems both in Windows AND Linux that were "fixed" by dramatically underclocking the CPU. All hardware stress tests would always pass. :/

Anyway, sorry for the random tangent lol.

2d ago

A hero

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dingus @lemmy.world 2d ago

Good luck scooping up a motherfucking house centipede. They move at like five billion miles per hour.

2d ago

It's ok for there to be no obvious reason

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dingus @lemmy.world 2d ago

Yeah I was told that recently in therapy. Sometimes you are just going to have bad days. That's ok. That's part of being human, not a failing on your part.

2d ago

It's ok for there to be no obvious reason

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dingus @lemmy.world 2d ago

Yes and no. It's unrealistic to expect to only ever be happy. Ebbs and flows of mood and emotions are a completely natural and unavoidable process. It's for those more extreme ebbs and flows that are cause for concern.

2d ago

Anyone feeling like this right now?

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dingus @lemmy.world 2d ago

It's ok to be unstable. We just have to work on getting the right gear for when we fall. I'm trying to upgrade mine rn haha.

2d ago

Has anyone here ever done an intensive outpatient (IOP) program? Just wanted to share my experience for those who might try it.

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dingus @lemmy.world 2d ago

Thank you! I felt like I was mentally present with my therapist as well, but I guess it wasn't quite enough lol. One of my group mates was "graduating" and he told us he made a DBT wall. I honestly thought it was a fantastic idea and am "stealing" it to hopefully remind myself of the techniques and ideas for after I'm done.

4d ago

Has anyone here ever done an intensive outpatient (IOP) program? Just wanted to share my experience for those who might try it.

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dingus @lemmy.world 4d ago

I think we have something similar. It's called "partial hospitalization". It's basically a step above what I describe but below being entirely trapped in the hospital unable to leave.

4d ago

Has anyone here ever done an intensive outpatient (IOP) program? Just wanted to share my experience for those who might try it.

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dingus @lemmy.world 4d ago

I am not surprised the group stuff actually clicked though. Individual therapy once every two weeks is honestly a joke for real issues. You spend forty minutes just giving a status update on your life and then the session is over. It does nothing for actual skill-building. Those IOPs are a grueling time-sink, but they force you to actually sit with the garbage in your head instead of just ignoring it until your next fifty-minute slot.

You really hit the nail on the head at why standard timeframe individual therapy seems to have just sucked for me. Therapy appointments never coincided with issues...and then it's basically just tell me about the past two weeks. "Ok bye." While therapists in my experience have always been eager to try to give input to me...I just haven't been able to have as much direct guidance as I needed. I'll cry about a bad day to them, but the suggestions given afterwards never seemed to help me enough.

Then I went the other way and bought a comprehensive DBT workbook. Good lord! It has helped me too, but over time I realized that it was way too dense and actually gave way TOO many techniques for it to be effective in my life. These bite sized, but 3x/week DBT chunks make it a lot easier to try to add in skills to daily life.

Just be careful with that “needing a therapist less” talk from your provider. It sounds great in theory, but in my experience, that is usually just insurance-speak for trying to kick people out of the system once they are stable enough to not be an immediate problem.

Well it's a bit different like that for me. I often complain to her about the cost of things and why all of my therapy and psychiatry appointments are not great for me monetarily. I have a crazy high deductible plan, so it is very expensive for me to see providers so often. The IOP program is a temporary hit to my financials (which I'm in a great position for) to potentially actually get some better help and ways to cope long term...as opposed to my current ineffective methods that still cost a lot of money overall.

I actually DON'T want to be in therapy long term. I want to be able to cope with life better myself. I would still obviously be open to seeing one in times of struggle, but I want to actually be able to have enough positive change in my life where it isn't really needed as much anymore, if at all.