Fairly indifferent, like the other user. I have no negative or positive expectations. We’ll see what life brings this week.

Wishing the best for you all. :)

Why in the world are you calling me a child? Do you not see that as rude?

I am not sexually compatible with other people and hormonal testing I had done at the doctor’s office indicates that I am unfortunately close to early menopause. Those things would make it very difficult for me to have that sort of a relationship and children out of it.

I clicked the OP a few times thinking I didn’t reach the joke yet lol

Idk…I’ve found throughout the years that there are increasingly greater and greater amounts of long-form content available on YouTube to watch. Of late, I’ve watched some Louis Theroux documentaries, some documentaries on abandoned facilities, and some real A&E and ambulance emergency shows. There is a ton of interesting content on there if you look for it. I guess I just find the number of streaming services to be too staggering to bother with. So I go with free alternatives like YouTube with an ad blocker and things like PlutoTV and tubi.

Do any of you ever wonder where this guy is today?

Interesting. I have heard vaguely of the concept, but I have no idea what it entails. I can’t say I’m personally too interested in trying it myself, but I’m interested to hear how it went for you. Care to give a brief overview of your experience?

That’s such an amazing journey! Thank you so much for sharing!

One of my online friends decided she was done with regular life and managed to go off grid herself. I’m a bit of a wuss in need of more modern conveniences lolol.

For the period of time I was on FMLA, I did contemplate quitting my job and trying to get one full time at the food pantry, honestly. Working for the community like that has its own sense of fulfillment, so I’m glad you found yours at the animal shelter.

friend who’s always invited but never shows up to events

I would say that was a fairly accurate description of me growing up lol. But as an adult, I don’t tend to have people inviting me places much anymore.

Then those few who existed in person were involved in my traumatic experience last year, so there was a bit of a rupture and it’s hard to feel safe around said people again.

I tried to turn some of my online friends into in person friends instead, but logistically, it ended up too complicated for me. The closest I found on a particular sort of website for meeting up was nearly 3 hours away. We made it work some of the time, but God, it was just too exhausting for the both of us to continue to make it work, so we stopped seeing each other.

Really, I need to find a more local community of people I get on with is what it might be. But I’m having trouble with that too. I started taking dance classes as well and have been enjoying them, but the classes themselves are not particularly social, despite having a bunch of us physically together.

Sorry for my pointless ramble lol. I am wordy online. I appreciate all of the comments here!

This is a support thread. I was giving some of my thoughts on it. It didn’t seem to be a space where a back and forth debate made sense.

I posted the comment you replied to when you started attacking me and started accusing me of things that I did not do. I did not do it before you attacked me.

Please understand that you are speaking to another human when you are doing this. I am a living, breathing being with my own thoughts and feelings. And you are being hurtful.

Being hurtful is not only unfair to me, but you are hurting yourself in the process. I found a lot of help discovering DBT, and I just rambled on about it as something that felt relevant to the scenario.

Fair enough. I will say at least many people at this stage seem like they’ve chosen to have children as their purpose. Fortunately or unfortunately (depends on your view), it’s not something that’s ever going to be in the cards for me. So I’ve taken to thinking of other things I suppose.

When I was going through it really bad, I was on FMLA from work for several weeks and tried to volunteer at the food pantry nearly every day. It was a nice change of pace for a bit that helped me from being consumed with my thoughts. I would have loved to continue with them specifically, but it seems like this and a lot of volunteer gigs are more during business hours. It makes sense, but it’s also when I work now lol.

Please don’t see the above as me “making an excuse”. I’m just almost kind of reminiscing about the time I guess.

I worked hard to get where I’m at. I’ve moved across the country several times and put blood, sweat, and tears through grad school to finally get the reward of my career and lucky to have my family somewhat nearby again. So that’s why I’m satisfied with that particular part.

I’m curious as to your own life experience if you don’t mind sharing.

I actually recently learned to ride a motorcycle lol! Definitely scared me!

The only time I ever see a YouTube ad is when I watch a family member pull up YouTube on their phone. It looks literally unwatchable that way. There are so many workarounds to this issue that I don’t understand how people can tolerate intrusive ads every 2 seconds.

Are you talking because of climate change or something else?

I work in a windowless environment, so it always makes me feel good to go outside at lunch and soak up the sun.

Yes, there are a lot of negatives in this world. But sometimes it’s better for our own minds to take what little positives there are in life and try to focus more on them. I can’t change the world, so I may as well find my little pockets of enjoyment out of it.

Hope you are well.

I think there’s some confusion. The linked post isn’t deleted. But the linked post is in an ADHD community. It sounds like OP posted the same content or linked to it in lemmy.world/c/mentalhealth . I do not see evidence of it in the mental health community. So it sounds like it WAS deleted from the mental health community.

I know you are hurting right now and you need somewhere for that hurt to go, but I am not your enemy. I am not familiar with the users you posted, nor do I have the ability to change your situation. I’m just some random person online who is a bit bored on my weekend off haha. It’s somewhat marred by the fact that Lemmy keeps erroring out every time I try to do something, but alas.

To be frank with you, I’m not interested in having some long protracted debate with you about the content of your original post.

I’m sorry for the ramble (we both appear to be prone to it lol) and I know this sounds a bit out of left field, but have you heard of DBT? I don’t have ADHD myself, but I struggle with the intensity of my emotions when something happens to me. I’ve read that a lot of people with ADHD struggle with this too. You are absolutely valid in being hurt and upset, but your own behavioral response afterwards isn’t necessarily helping you out. I’ve been trying my best to have a more nuanced understanding of things, myself, life, etc., and to be less polarizing in “right” vs. “wrong”. I don’t always succeed (as no human is perfect), but I feel as though it has helped me out.

I do wish I had another mental health community to direct you towards that would welcome you, but unfortunately I don’t at the moment.

I can only hope you do something fun/nice for yourself today to try to make what happened weigh less on your mind! Wishing all the best!

Couple of things. First, I’m sorry for your mental health struggles and your ban from a mental health community.

I think what you’ll find is that people get such a hard on for hatred of AI, that you’ll likely get posts banned and removed from other communities if people think you are using it. Is it fair? It’s besides the point, really. It’s just that unfortunately it’s not going to be very popular…fairness or not. As you’ve seen, even suspected AI use has the risk of people acting this way to you.

Next, neurotransmitters and the brain are a hell of a lot more complicated than they appear. Remember when everyone thought that major depressive disorder was simply a deficiency in serotonin? Well, modern evidence shows that that isn’t at all the case and it’s much more complicated than that. It doesn’t change the fact that SSRIs can be beneficial, but it changes our understanding as to how and why they may be.

ADHD is not simply a deficiency of dopamine and norepinephrine. Reducing it to that is highly inaccurate. If that were true, then drugs that increase both of these would be curative. But they aren’t. Symptoms are managed with ADHD drugs, but you’ll still struggle.

ADHD involves disturbances of dopamine and norepinephrine, but as to why and how that comes to be is another question. You can look at it as correlation versus causation. There is clearly an association there, but not necessarily a causative one.

Psychological disorders are no longer viewed as simple dediciencies in specific neurotransmitters. That is really not the case anymore with modern research. Altered neurotransmitters are a symptom and trying to alter them in other ways with drugs may or may not help a given user. I’m not saying that psych drugs are useless or anything, just that they are more complicated than you’d think. I take a psych med, myself.

So in that regard I can see how someone would call an assertion with that as misinformation.

At any rate, I wish you well in your mental health journey.

This reminds me…I’ve joined a discord server focused on mental health. The server had been shut down in the past for having some sort of severe issues. The gist of it is that if you put a bunch of people with dubious mental stability together, you can end up with a really rough time if you don’t have extensive moderation. So now the server has even more strict moderation and specific operating hours. A necessary evil in such a space like that.

Wishing the best for you and your friend.

I find it’s a good habit to get into anyway…minimizes stink by a lot! I always courtesy flush now even at home!

When I drove my car recklessly fast a couple of times. I know it’s not smart to do, but you asked!!!