• 53 Posts
  • 1.46K Comments
Joined 3 年前
cake
Cake day: 2023年6月10日

help-circle
  • Well it is a job, but it’s also a relationship. The two aren’t necessarily mutually exclusive. In the OP, the one person presumably has a job where they are working outside of the home. The other person’s job is to cook inside of the home.

    In fact, thinking about it like a job might be even better because then you can set clearer boundaries, like “days off/vacations” from cooking.

    In general, it seems like the stay at home spouse is expected to be “always on”, but people get burnt out and relationships get strained that way. People need more breaks and clearly defined delineations for that.








  • dingus@lemmy.worldtomemes@lemmy.worldlol
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    2
    ·
    4 天前

    I work in a hospital. Had a very young patient die that way recently. I don’t work directly with the patients, but I am very tangentially involved in the process of determining whether or not an organ is viable for transplant. The case basically had me going “what the fuck”. They had their whole life ahead of them.

    One of the minor hosts of Mythbusters died that way too.

    The fragility of life is terrifying.








  • I seem to be more vulnerable to mental struggles than a lot of people I know irl. When I went through what was the worst time in my life (so far lol…I’m a vulnerable person ig), I had to go to work every day to a place that traumatized me. I was on FMLA temporarily, but I couldn’t get on with that forever. Gotta make money to live lol. My career is not also one where you can hop around that easy.

    Anyway, I decided I wanted a tattoo to remind me to be strong and keep going. I wanted it in a visible place so I could look at it. Every day for many weeks on the shuttle bus into work, I cried. Every day for many months on the shuttle bus into work, I would do breathing exercises and then look at the tattoo to remind myself to be strong. I have motivational wristbands that I also wear daily, but the tattoo I think was first.

    I tried to look at the world around me. The trees, the people, the buildings, etc. Everything. I would observe them truly and wholly, and I would become amazed by them. Amazed at the “miracle” (I’m an atheist, so it’s maybe not the right word exactly) of living creatures around me and the vast and complex devices and structures we’ve made.

    Very slowly…painfully slowly…life became easier. It’s still fucking hard, but stuff like that helps.

    tl;dr - 1. Have a trinket to remind you of your own strength. 2. Try to take a step back for a moment and really and truly intently try observe your surroundings with a sense of wonder.

    Best of luck to you all! You fucking got this!



  • Desire? I would say not really. Very occasionally yes and fleeting.

    But more it’s like missing a sense. Image all of your friends and family talk about how amazing chocolate tastes. But you were born without a sense of taste. Because people talking about the taste of chocolate are everywhere around you and you’ll never get to know what it tastes like, it bothers you on occasion. You never crave chocolate because you can’t taste anyway, but you’d just like to know what everyone tastes sometimes.

    Except replace chocolate with sex/relationships. It’s a bit more significant than chocolate because essentially all forms of media prominently feature sex/relationship. It’s ubiquitous. And many people’s sense of life purpose comes from the outcome of that (children). And man the way people describe what an orgasm is like, it sounds like freaking heroin or something. I’d like to just once be able to experience something that powerful and pleasurable. Most of the time I live with it and am unbothered, but occasionally it leaves me feeling really left out and at some times not even the same species.


  • I feel this. Getting there myself. Part of the problem is that I can’t experience sexual pleasure and I have a hard time experiencing sexual attraction. But I really wish I could experience what those endorphins feel like even once! But even doing it myself, it doesn’t work that way.

    To my knowledge, I don’t seem to have any physical abnormalities. I’ve been to the doc for a checkup before there. Nerves just must not be hooked up right or something.



  • dingus@lemmy.worldtoLemmy Be Wholesome@lemmy.worldFeel so good
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    1
    arrow-down
    1
    ·
    14 天前

    Well low-dose antipsychotics are a thing, too. I’m on them and I don’t feel “bad” or anything. I can never tell if they are helping me or not tho, same as any other psych med I’ve tried. Only difference is that I have not had any behavioral dyscontrol at work since taking them. May or may not be related. I never know. At least I’m no longer being threatened to be terminated.