I’m very sorry to keep bringing this up, I’m just wondering. I know no one can help and fix this but me, but I do like to vent before I decide whether or not to stay or leave. Here’s the problem: I wish it was easy for me to stand my ground, say how I feel, and dump my (22F) boyfriend Will (23NB/M), but I don’t wanna make him angry by telling him even if he’s not an angry guy and I just have a bad past. Also, he sometimes is very affectionate, especially when we actually see each other, and we’re always touching, kissing, and hugging, but mostly we don’t see each other and he’s always too busy when I ask if he wants to come or if I can come to his house.
However, we’re poly and he usually has time for plans with his other partner Dave (26M). It feels like Will’s very… on-and-off, like one minute I want to cry and he strips me of that affection he gave me and completely ignores my texts, but the next minute he makes me laugh and he meets all my needs and is completely attentive to everyone in the room, even or especially me.
The sooner you realise life is too short for this shit. The better off you’ll be. Don’t wait til you’re 40 to start realising that.
Understandable, thanks
my generation’s term was “sex buddies”, personally I would call it “not a relationship”. you’ll feel better if you block him and find someone who will actually give you what you want.
Thanks! We don’t even fuck, sadly, or “follar” in my home country. He’s too busy being obsessed with Dave
Sounds like a friends with benefits situation the more you describe it.
Yeahhh, you’re probably right
Even if it can be good sometimes it isn’t worth it if that’s how you feel other times. First step is talking to partner about how you feel, to see if they are commited to making changes to the relationship to help suit what you need. But if they don’t want to, then its probably the wrong relationship for you
I’ve tried that, sadly, he just says “I’m sorry” or gives me a reason like “I’m depressed”
Then maybe there is a better relationship out there for you.
Yeahhh, probably
Si quieres más, quieres más. That’s it. It doesn’t have to be complicated. “I want more. Are you prepared for more?” Yes or no. I encourage you to state your needs and ask them what they are willing to do.
Do you worry that you don’t deserve more? Do you worry that nobody else will want to be with you? These are normal concerns. You are young. There is only one way to find out. You have time to find someone else.
Peace.
I think it’s called “no strings attached.”
Huh, maybe that’s it
