FriendOfDeSoto

I was a child and had enough time to devote to learning this.

For me it’s my middle finger hitting the cushion below the thumb that makes the noise.

With kids there is no one size fits all approach. And you won’t do everything right as a parent either. Ever. You’re on a tightrope walk of keeping the ills of the world away from them and them fantasizing about the ills of the world from the bits and pieces they pick up along the way.

They have to feel safe. With you/at home/etc. As long as you get that mostly right, the other pieces fall into place. One of those pieces will be the MO you’re looking for here.

If you’re overly worried about the idea of having kids: even the dumbest, most ignorant humans have brought up the overwhelming majority of their children successfully. It’s not as hard as one thinks before. Because you worry about something like this way ahead of time, I am fairly sure you’ll do better than them.

It takes much longer to fall out of love than the other way around.

The good news is that the magas cherry pick what lies they want to believe. And they’ll wholeheartedly believe when he says it wasn’t his dumb economic policy but [insert scapegoat here] that increased the price of eggs twentyfold.

A gifted politician will find a way to give these people an out that doesn’t require them to admit they ran behind the wrong fasces, but somehow reinstalls stability in DC. If you can’t cut a path like that all they can do is double down because sure as hellfire they won’t admit he was, or indeed they were, the problem.

I think the tipping point where most credits were at the end occurred in the early 00s.

I think it’s funny, nay, Alanis would call it ironic, that decades earlier trailers moved from the back to the front.

My comment is referring to the imminent inflation in Trump’s terrific tariff economy. During inflation, the value of money decreases. If it’s hyperinflation - which is possible if he appoints one of his children to run the fed - a million won’t cover your weekly grocery bill.

I appreciate your effort to keep senseless loss of lives in mind here. I don’t think it will work. They don’t want to be US citizens. And the way the Trump economy is going to shape out, 1 million dollars may not be worth that much soon.

DOB

Don’t shoot me, for I’m only a messenger As a rule in life, if you can blame everything on everyone around you it’s time to look inwards for change. I’m just saying, maybe it’s not all of us, maybe it’s you? My first reaction to reading your post was to suggest a therapist. And I’m saying that as somebody who isn’t great at social interactions either.

We lionize medical professionals as these infallible gods in lab coats. They’re only human too, although they would not admit that. It’s good to keep that in mind; alter your perception to work with them on you rather than you being fully serviced by them.

Favorite = read receipt, boost = like. It’s not an absolute rule but it’s in the ballpark.

I don’t think that’s the case in France. Technically, there was consent from the parents. The age of consent is 15. What they did was morally questionable but not illegal.

Eh

Then you haven’t been to China. It’s a shorthand gesture there. The character for ten is 十 so I’m not sure if the gesture informed the character or the other way around. What is noteworthy is just that both cultures ended up with a cross to denote ten.

All the best for your furry friend.

One batch of the 4A’s batteries have become a fire hazard. That’s why Google (near)bricked the phones to prevent that.

These delayed notifications sound like some background processes get killed. I hazard to guess that’s why you get all at once once you wake up the phone. So look for items like background and battery optimization in the settings and see if you can re-enable some of these.

It’s been a minute with the 4A. I think it’s great that you keep extending the life of the phone and thus reduce e-waste. But I think it might be time to look for another phone.

You’re right, you used to be able to do that but it’s been a while since it stopped.

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Just as an aside and in addition to the other comments here:

There is a phenomenon called regulatory capture. It can take many different forms but the short version is that agencies and policies get perverted to only benefit one group. When the intention should be society at large.

There is a process where the big players, say OpenAI, call for regulation of their industry, not because they feel it needs regulating but because the regulatory hurdles will keep competitors at bay. Meta pulled a stunt like that as well with social networks. So big hype company calling for regulation in their field is a red flag, accompanied by a loud alarm bell.

A good faith argument kind of presupposes that all people constantly objectively question their convictions. And I don’t think we humans do that. We’re very happy with the way we think. And very capable of holding opposing viewpoints at the same time.

It is easy to be caught up in jingoistic fervor. It’s easy not to register all the incremental changes that go against your ideals. It’s easy to overlook atrocities that are committed “by your team, for the cause.” It only takes mental gymnastics we’re perfectly capable of as a species.

You’re trying to apply conventional logic to this. Stop. They only want more power and money and they would say anything to get it.

Most of us don’t have the luxury of choosing our families. We can just try to do the best with the hand we’re dealt. I’m sorry for your loss.

Maybe delete the picture, put the phone down, and try to think of 20 great things about your grandmother.

Nobody here can really give you specific advice based on the few facts. You’re part of this family, you know them better than all of us. If you feel off about it, there’s a reason for it. You’ve come here to ask the question. So I think you’re well within your rights to reduce contact with that side of the family. I would only suggest you quietly ghost rather than making a big stink.

I think for answering that question we would need a baseline to compare with.

Lacking that, with kindness and empathy in conversations. And with resoluteness in the face of injustice.