I’m already 35, and I don’t think I could get anything at this age, especially in an area with almost no third places, almost nonexistent mental health system, etc.
Yes I know, friends do exist, but it’s just not the same (unless you happen to regularly have sex, cuddle, etc. with your friends).
It’s obnoxious, and frankly I’m of the opinion that the internet, social media, and dating app profiles have made people too fickle. With the ability to see and speak to so many people (and the inevitable army of bots now with AI) we’ve gotten to a place where we want the EXACT ideal and skip out on things that could be good otherwise.
What I might say is don’t look, but keep your eyes open. Even if someone you run across in your regular life who seems ideal is unavailable, take it as a sign that these people exist and sometime you may run into them.
Source: late 40s and still curious years after my last relationship
I describe the apps as a buffet table lol
With the ratio of something like 80:20 men to women, they have a huge selection to choose from. Why would they choose that weird pizza (me) that is for some reason at the Chinese buffet when there could be an awesome plate of something else “one swipe away.”
Because I want a greek pizza or a cheeseburger pizza with pickles and not the cheese pizza!
Mmmmm greek pizza