I am absolutely done. Try to post anything I need help on and I get downvoted just for asking a fucking question on Reddit. And people are so rude to people with different pronouns like, they/them but especially neopronouns or whatever they’re called, like fae/faer and xe/xem.
Mention my boyfriend is sapphic nonbinary masc? Someone says something absolutely fucking rude about non-binary people and how they hate Gen Z and how I need professional mental help and that they’re “not leftist enough” for xe/xem pronouns and therefore they can’t respect their pronouns.
Some of these people claim to be LGBTQ+ too. For shame. Furthermore, rather than ignore and it respect the person, they say rude shit about my being poly too and how it’s “not natural” and the same recycled homophobic rhetoric from YEARS ago.
I’m done. I’m done, fuck. And people are saying I’m a jerk and a bad person for wanting to leave my boyfriend, as if I should just let myself be sad. People don’t like me, and I’m done being nice. Pardon me, I’m off my meds and very ranty today, but MY GOD I’M PISSED FROM HAVING TO HOLD BACK MY TRUE FEELINGS!
I think you have a correct read, which is why I decided to disagree. My point is that being in a relationship of any kind is complex and potentially difficult, especially starting a relationship, but that’s a separate issue from being poly. I don’t think it helps to put off “being poly” until some arbitrary threshold of mental stability, in the same way I don’t think it helps to put off “being trans” until a more convenient time. It’s not the kind of thing that can be put off, it just is, and coming to a more complete understanding of oneself is part of achieving mental stability. I also wanted to draw a distinction between “being poly” and “being in a committed multi-partner relationship”: the former is just a thing you just are, the latter is a complicated endeavor the same way that being in a committed mono relationship is a complicated endeavor.