Hello! I had figured out that I was trans around the time when I first entered puberty, but decided against transitioning as Turkey wasn’t really the most progressive place on earth and it would’ve been really hard. But I just can’t take it anymore this way, and I’ve decided to transition at least when I’m independent from my family and have some level of financial security.
Though it seems that our government is trying to crack down on gender affirming care (a law draft got proposed a month ago in support for increasing the age limit for gender affirming care to 25, and prison sentences for people helping in providing DIY methods), so I want to at least stock up on meds while I still can.
So is it possible to store them (Climen and Androcur tablets) safely for years to come?
As far as I know, boobs won’t match the closest relatives, they’ll usually be a size or two smaller.
I would personally use the advice from the transmasculine community: binders, hoodies, etc. can definitely be used to hide boobs. Not sure if there is a dress code or how much flexibility you have, though.
I definitely wouldn’t delay starting HRT over this issue. Personally, I had boobs and my skin had become very soft and my neighbor (who knew me as a man and I hadn’t come out to) was commenting on how young I looked when I shaved my beard, lol.
People may or may not notice. They often prefer to see what they want so it’s entirely possible to boymode still, it just takes some effort (again, the trans male community has lots of tips on how to present more masc). I knew a girl who was several years into her transition, she looked like a cis woman to me, but she hadn’t come out at her conservative workplace yet. She had to have been perceived as “soft”, etc. - she also grew her hair out, etc. … so I don’t know how anyone could see a boy, but somehow her colleagues still saw her as a man.
So, I know cases IRL where this has worked (medically transitioning while remaining in the closet).
Thank you for your answer <3
I have one more question: it seems that after starting HRT I have to do blood tests every 3 months or so to adjust my dosage. The issue is that I’m underage, and I have to attend my appointments with my mom who would presumably be notified about my transitioning. And even if the doctor turned out to be non-problematic, I would still have to explain myself and why I wanted to get those specific hormones checked out in front of her.
So are blood tests actually a must do?
Really grateful for your help. I’m going to go sleep for tonight so I won’t be able to respond right now, in case you answer really quickly :D
blood tests are pretty important, but it’s only every 3 months at the beginning - after a year or so I think it’s more like once every 6 - 12 months.
And being underage does make it difficult, it depends on how responsible & mature you are and how much you can educate yourself on whether DIY makes sense without blood tests, but that’s the alternative to getting HRT from a doctor and doing blood tests. You can always then see a doctor once you’re of age.
However, your mom may notice your transition, so don’t expect that to last forever. I would give yourself around a year of boymoding, maybe less or more depending on your genetics, etc.
but don’t count on never being out with your family unless you happen to never see them again