Adoption isn’t an option when there is a miscarriage. Women are dying because miscarriages can’t be properly dealt with due to anti-abortion laws.
Example: https://www.propublica.org/article/josseli-barnica-death-miscarriage-texas-abortion-ban
MSNBC was reporting that Harris lost support among the youth compared to Biden in 2020: Biden had a 24 point lead among voters age 18 - 29, and that was cut in half to a 13 point lead for Harris.
Among young men, Harris had only a 2 point lead, but among young women Harris had a 36 point lead - so it was heavily dependent on gender.
Moving away from age, it was also surprising that Biden had a higher margin with women than Harris ended up with. Biden’s lead with women outstripping Trump’s lead with men, but Harris’s 10 point lead with women was matched with Trump’s 10 point lead with men.
Her steps to the right might earn her votes from the educated white neoconservative crowd, I don’t think moving further to the left aligns her with swing state voters even if I wish that were the case.
Meanwhile the kids where I am shout “Vote Trump” and have never heard the Hollywood Access tape because they were children when it came out. It’s a mixed bag.
psh, don’t bad-mouth nihilists
My problem is with associating it with feminism, it’s offensive to me and factually inaccurate. TERF talking points are usually gender essentializing in a way that is contrary with radical feminist viewpoints, for example, and lots of TERFs now distance themselves from feminism intentionally as they coalition with the right-wing. “Gender critical feminism” is not feminism at all, and better characterized as fundamentally anti-trans rather than fundamentally feminist.
Oh, sorry - it was hard for me to follow your comment as well, but here’s my understanding:
We read about OP sharing nudes with a friend.
TERF warns OP that they are sharing nudes not with a fellow woman, but with a man (TERF is assuming friend was a trans woman, assumes OP is a cis woman).
We expect OP to reveal they are actually a trans woman, but instead we learn OP and his friend are cis men.
Does this seem right?
Sorry, these moments make me feel like I must be autistic or something, lol
I’m not sure I understand what the transphobe is saying (I don’t want to call these people radical feminists, they’re not).
She sees an exchange where two people talk about exchanging nudes, and she assumes they were both trans women, so she thinks she’s exposing them as men because they aren’t acting like women (who would never share nude photos of themselves)?
It’s honestly confusing to me (lots of cis women share nude photos, though not usually to their friends AFAIK).
It sorta went the opposite for me, when I first started with a vegan diet I abstained from all substitutes and eventually I learned to use them to recreate foods I thought I wouldn’t be able to eat again.
ah yeah, good points - I’m just always wary of the way health fads misrepresent problems, e.g. organic foods being somehow a part of the solution for climate change, etc.
that makes sense, especially as sugar is not particularly filling and refined carbs are less filling as well - so it’s easier to accidentally eat too much
Still, the focus then would be on the metabolic impact and how refined the food is, theoretically something could be ultra-processed and not have too much sugar. Seems like the wrong kind of categorization, if that makes sense.
that’s helpful, thank you.
I guess a real question is whether there is anything actually bad about being ultra-processed, and what non-arbitrarily determines what is ultra-processed and thus bad?
That does assume the kid has the time and resources to hang together a costume even if homemade. I was maybe a preteen when this happened, so that may have played into some adults’ hesitancy to give me candy, but also looking back I just think the people in the neighborhood I was in had bad values. I also had zero time for a costume, I wasn’t planning on trick-or-treating at all, and it was only because my friends were kind enough to invite me anyway.
But I would give candy to teens, adults, or kids regardless of whether they have a costume or not. :-)
Are you, in your estimation, intelligent?
No. Particularly I get the impression other people get things faster than me, and I seem to have to do more cognitive labor than my peers. I guess I would ask what “intelligence” is, that seems like a difficult thing to quantify or answer.
Are you wise in the way you apply that intelligence? (interpretation yours)
No, I generally consider myself unwise. (It takes me a long time to learn from my mistakes or change self-destructive behaviors, etc. - it often feels like I have trouble “adulting”.)
Do you view yourself as unique and individual, or as a data point on the spectrum of humanity?
Both, how else could it be? (We are both subjects and objects, unique but usually only slight variations of a theme.)
The only time I went without a costume as a kid was because I lived in a dysfunctional household and I was super stressed and didn’t have enough time or support to plan a costume - so I threw on an oversized coat and went with my friends; some adults tried to give me trouble and refused me candy, and that was a bummer because I felt like I had failed … anyway - I guess my point is that maybe some kids are being lazy or something, but you don’t really know.
I personally would definitely give kids candy regardless, but I wish people would actually trick-or-treat where I live, it makes me so sad that nobody does.
I see propublica, I upvote
It’s commonly regarded as sexist in most contexts, at least that is / was my understanding. The thesis reiterates the harm outside of a workplace setting:
This suggests that the infantilizing label girl has the most impact and is most harmful in contexts where qualities of maturity, leadership, and adultness are most critical, such as in workplace and leadership settings. I do not mean to suggest, however, that being called girl in a non-workplace setting is unproblematic, as it is possible that such labels could have a cumulative effect over time in any setting: the connotations of naivety and innocence may take their toll on women in the long-term.
While referring to a man as a boy likewise has problematic features (esp. as a racist slur, like when a white man referring to a black man as “boy”), I think it is considered more harmful to refer to a woman as a “girl” due to the context of women being marginalized historically and presently by undermining their sense of personal autonomy and authority (e.g. the way Hegel described women as akin plants, or the way Aristotle argued women are natural mutilations and aberrations of the proper male form who do not exercise their will and require men to manage their affairs for their own good, the way parents must for their children).
This is all contextual though - women peers referring to one another as “girl” can be affirming or positive without the infantilizing meaning or impact, so part of the problem is the context of a man referring to a woman as “girl”.
And of course you probably didn’t intend this, or even been aware it has any sexist connotation, in fact I suspect this kind of behavior is rather common (lots of men can be clueless about the subtle differences in language and the impact it can have on women).
This is somewhat touched on in the article as well:
Indeed, this study may be the first to show that a commonly used label for a group of people (and one that is even preferred by members of that group in many contexts) can have a detrimental effect on members of that group. Previous research (e.g., Boeckmann & Liew, 2002; Carnaghi & Maass, 2007; Evans & Chapman, 2014; Leets, 2002; Leets & Giles, 1997) has documented the effects of hate speech and overtly derogatory labels on minority group members. The term girl reveals another insidious type of language effect that passes by relatively unnoticed and is deemed “normal,” yet has deleterious consequences.
By the way, I want to be clear that the take-away here isn’t that you’re sexist or bad, the take-away should just be that many women feel infantilized by being referred to as a girl and that it’s good to be aware of and sensitive to that.
Besides the harm it can cause, it’s also probably just pragmatically useful for you to know that other women seeing you refer to another woman as “girl” might have a chilling effect or even spark anger, since it is seen as sexist. I think the context matters here, but a lot of women are victims of physical and sexual assault on top of all the other ways they can be marginalized in this society, and the resulting trauma can cause outsized / disproportionate responses or outbursts. It’s just worth noting that if someone seems to be overreacting to something you don’t see as that big of a deal, there might be deeper issues there. I don’t want you to feel like you have to walk on egg-shells, but it’s also good to be aware and empathetic if you are willing to.
That just wasn’t the part of the title I was focused on / expecting to be fixed.
is there a history I don’t know about? lol