Of course it’s a fetish. I too have a fetish of living somewhere wet, green, with trees and stones around and stone+wood construction, with a bit of the traditional lifestyle in that general area. I mean, without the bad parts (sign language there is called “bride’s language” cause a bride wasn’t supposed to utter a word 3 months after marriage in olden days).
The fetish is about woods, mountains, silence and freedom.
The problem with these people is that they are trying to show some “perfect” life, the way everybody expects “perfect” (in their own opinion) workflow in computer stuff, “perfect” bodies in porn, “perfect” politicians (cancel culture is bad not cause rape\racism\theft is good, it’s bad because figures carefully prepared to not even raise suspicions come on top, and these are usually not the most moral ones, just those with better advisors), “perfect” partners (you know these people who do lots of clubbing and dating and all even speak in the same voices in similar situations ; you divert from their ritual, they go anxious ; you say “ADHD”, they say other people don’t need to know that ; you have a hiding-from-society day when they want to go out, they feel badly hurt), “perfect” communication (one my friend has read somewhere that he has personal borders, but somehow missed that others have them too and saying “fuck off” to him is not violating his, while threatening to punch that other person is a violation), and so on.
OK, wrote too much. I just hate that glossy shit around us.
The big problem with these situations is that’s there’s no “safeword”. There’s no out. She may have consented going into it, but there’s no way for her to withdraw that consent.
It tends to be very hard to leave a relationship when you don’t have access to your own money, transportation, and housing, especially if you’re going to try to take the gaggle of kids with you. Physical violence is not the only means of control in abusive relationships.
Of course it’s a fetish. I too have a fetish of living somewhere wet, green, with trees and stones around and stone+wood construction, with a bit of the traditional lifestyle in that general area. I mean, without the bad parts (sign language there is called “bride’s language” cause a bride wasn’t supposed to utter a word 3 months after marriage in olden days).
The fetish is about woods, mountains, silence and freedom.
The problem with these people is that they are trying to show some “perfect” life, the way everybody expects “perfect” (in their own opinion) workflow in computer stuff, “perfect” bodies in porn, “perfect” politicians (cancel culture is bad not cause rape\racism\theft is good, it’s bad because figures carefully prepared to not even raise suspicions come on top, and these are usually not the most moral ones, just those with better advisors), “perfect” partners (you know these people who do lots of clubbing and dating and all even speak in the same voices in similar situations ; you divert from their ritual, they go anxious ; you say “ADHD”, they say other people don’t need to know that ; you have a hiding-from-society day when they want to go out, they feel badly hurt), “perfect” communication (one my friend has read somewhere that he has personal borders, but somehow missed that others have them too and saying “fuck off” to him is not violating his, while threatening to punch that other person is a violation), and so on.
OK, wrote too much. I just hate that glossy shit around us.
No, it’s always about sex too. Women don’t just spawn children from nothing, after all.
It’s like findom combined with a breeding and submissive fetish.
Well, what can you do. If somebody wants do be dominated.
But yes, kinda disgusting.
The big problem with these situations is that’s there’s no “safeword”. There’s no out. She may have consented going into it, but there’s no way for her to withdraw that consent.
“No” is a safeword
You are assuming that her saying “no” would be respected. These are the people that don’t believe that spousal rape is a thing.
Carrying a gun as part of that aesthetic?
It tends to be very hard to leave a relationship when you don’t have access to your own money, transportation, and housing, especially if you’re going to try to take the gaggle of kids with you. Physical violence is not the only means of control in abusive relationships.
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