I just saw an Instagram reel where a South Asian man, presumably one living in a Western country, spoke about the hardships of interracial dating, particularly being a POC dating a white person.
In the comments, a white woman responded to this post with something along the lines of, “I don’t disagree, but, similarly, straight women experience all of these problems in the context of misogyny because men don’t experience sexism, so they can’t understand their struggles!”, and it seemed like she was tokenizing WOC because she also added, “And Black women dating white men experience this twofold!” or some shit like that.
Here’s the thing: the contents of her comment were not necessarily wrong, but I don’t get good faith vibes from it. It seems like a typical derailment used by white women who cannot stand the thought of opposing oppression besides the ones they personally face. Her comment got over 200 likes or something around there, and there were 7 positive replies to it (usually just stuff like clapping emojis) before I had to be the 8th reply and the first to call it out. I got a fair amount of likes, but after I commented, I just muted notifications because I don’t wish to engage further. It’s not worth it.
But what I ultimately see as the beneficial takeaway of all of this is the validation of these key beliefs of mine:
My skepticism of most “leftists” is totally justified.
My skepticism of white people is totally justified.
My refusal to ever date out again is totally justified.
Sometimes, especially in this gaslighting white supremacist world, I feel like I’m being “dramatic” with said skepticism, but I’m beginning to know with more and more confidence that I’m really not.
I just saw an Instagram reel where a South Asian man, presumably one living in a Western country, spoke about the hardships of interracial dating, particularly being a POC dating a white person.
In the comments, a white woman responded to this post with something along the lines of, “I don’t disagree, but, similarly, straight women experience all of these problems in the context of misogyny because men don’t experience sexism, so they can’t understand their struggles!”, and it seemed like she was tokenizing WOC because she also added, “And Black women dating white men experience this twofold!” or some shit like that.
Here’s the thing: the contents of her comment were not necessarily wrong, but I don’t get good faith vibes from it. It seems like a typical derailment used by white women who cannot stand the thought of opposing oppression besides the ones they personally face. Her comment got over 200 likes or something around there, and there were 7 positive replies to it (usually just stuff like clapping emojis) before I had to be the 8th reply and the first to call it out. I got a fair amount of likes, but after I commented, I just muted notifications because I don’t wish to engage further. It’s not worth it.
But what I ultimately see as the beneficial takeaway of all of this is the validation of these key beliefs of mine:
Sometimes, especially in this gaslighting white supremacist world, I feel like I’m being “dramatic” with said skepticism, but I’m beginning to know with more and more confidence that I’m really not.
Update: After further backlash and criticism, she deleted her comment, lmao
It was around 600 likes or something when she did. My comment got a bit over 100, I think.