Angel

Normative take on interracial relationships + my rant

I'm sick and tired of people saying "I only date my own race" or "date your own race" it sounds inappropriate, it sounds racist and it sounds wrong, just as long as the person is kind and is a good person, it should not matter what someone's race and ethnicity is

This is a YouTube comment I copied verbatim from a YouTube video by a more "woke" Black woman talking about interracial relationships. This comment got 60+ likes and no pushback, really.

Listen, I am not going out here and telling other people, "Only date your own race." I got better use of my energy, but what is disturbing is this being conflated with a personal refusal to date out. Saying I "[sound] racist" and "[sound] wrong" just for acknowledging that race matters, and that includes in the context of the relationship with the person I'd be the most intimate and personal with for the rest of my life, is woefully misguided and undialectical.

This should be very obvious, but for some reason, it isn't.

Something that disturbs the shit out of me is people who want to acknowledge that the personal is political for EVERYTHING but romance.

Some of the same "woke" people who want to talk about how race affects experiences in employment, housing, healthcare, education, the media, social life/friendships, hobbies, etc. all of a sudden feel inclined to throw that level of clarity out the window the moment the subject matter is romance. At that point, then they want to just individualize something that they should know exists within a larger system. At that point, it's just about "individual character" and "personal preference."

By the way, personal "preference" does not exist in a vacuum. When a Black man says, "I prefer white women because they're calm, feminine, and have good hair!", that is not some innocuous "preference." That is white supremacy being internalized.

Race is real. It's real via reification of a system predicated on pseudoscience, yes, but it is still real. That does not change just because a Black person and a white person fall for each other.

I truly believe that many people in interracial relationships are not properly equipped for all the extra labor it will entail, and me? I will pass on taking on that additional labor.

To be fair, my diehard Catholic grandparents from the Caribbean definitely give this vibe, but honestly, they're also very myopic people and do not seem to engage in critical thinking very much, at least when it comes to politics.

the caucasity of this site's userbase

Jesus fucking Christ

Months ago, I signed up for this survey that was interviewing LGBTQ+ people in the US, with priority for LGBTQ+ POC.

They just got back to me after all this time, but what's good is that they told me I'd earn decent money for doing this, so hey, at least that's extra money to have while I'm going through this shit.

got a solo (around 1:11)

What's next is likely a gentle interlude/theme changeup... we shall see

CW: Suicide, Extinctionism

Antinatalists do agree with extinction as the conclusion of it all, yes, but the thing is that they may disagree with the means of achieving such.

Some antinatalists, for instance, just simply want people to stop reproducing and have humanity as a whole gradually fade into non-existence.

Other antinatalists are mask-off and would support shit like dropping a bomb on everyone or people committing mass suicide. These people are often considered EFILists ([life backwards]ists), extinctionists, and promortalists.

Obviously, the former is far less insufferable and doesn't have nearly as much of an edgy white boy vibe as the latter, but both are deeply flawed.

Race fetishism

I read this passage on the Wikipedia page titled "Race and sexuality":

"After World War 2, a large number of Asian women (especially Japanese) were married to US servicemen. Marriages to Asian women initially faced legal obstacles due to pre-existing laws against interracial marriage.[26] However, the determination of American servicemen to marry Japanese women resulted in widespread defiance of the law.[26] The high reputation of Japanese war brides generated sympathy from the general public about the difficulties faced by interracial couples, leading to increased tolerance for interracial marriage.[27] In 1947, the War Brides Act was amended to give citizenship to the children of American servicemen regardless of race or ethnicity.[28] Ultimately the effort to normalize interracial marriages involving Japanese women led to the passage of the McCarran-Walter act, which repealed the Immigration Act of 1924, thereby loosening restrictions on immigration and citizenship requirements for non-Northwestern European immigrants.[29]"

Notice how the paragraph says that this "[led] to increased tolerance for interracial marriage."

So what led to increased tolerance for interracial marriage? A desire for white American soldiers to act on fetishization they place onto Japanese women.

Yet people think that increased acceptance for interracial relationships is inherently "woke" and a sign of racial divides healing.

More people accepting interracial partnerships means jack and shit for progress against racism if many of these interracial relationships are still rooted in the harmful entailments of racism as a system.