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Black • androgynous • atheist • prog metal enjoyer • xVx

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  • POC playing into the fetishization is such a common mess.

    That's why a white woman can reduce Black men down to a porn trope, and Black men will still eat it the fuck up.

    This is reminding me of how I watched a video of a white man, who was trying to come off as "woke," mind you, point to the fact that Ebony is the most popular porn category in the US as a way of saying, "See, look! People do find Black women beautiful!"

    Fucking help me, ay, ay, ay...

    Ever since I thought of the question of whether I should be exclusively committed to romantic love with Black people, with time, my mind has only been seeing more and more reasons as to why that makes sense. It has been a gradual process. There was a period where I was open to partners regardless of race, but then I had periods of uncertainty, then I got to a point where I was like 99% certain that I should never date a non-Black person ever again, and now I am at 100% certainty.

    One reason for this (of many) is that, even if I had absolutely no ill intentions such as fetishism or internalized racism, people from the outside would still try to slap some sexualized race fetish dynamic onto my relationship anyway.

    I wish it didn't happen, but this is just another manifestation of how racism is so goddamn ubiquitous.

    Can't have people project an interracial fetish onto your relationship if you refuse to get into an interracial relationship

  • This job I applied and interviewed for like quite a few weeks ago fucking texted me back just making sure they had the right number

    And I responded back, "Yeah, that's me."

    They still have not responded back after I sent that.

    Interestingly enough, this job lied. When I interviewed with them, they told me I was gonna get an answer the day after and now they're texting me about it weeks later? Not only that, but they can't even be prompt and timely in this follow-up.

    If they are to give me an offer, it might be some temporary thing worth putting up with as I prepare myself to pass the CNA test, but who knows?

  • music @hexbear.net

    Finger Eleven - Paralyzer [Alternative Rock] (3:38) - 2007

  • Me when they use "chocolate" to describe a Black woman's skin tone.

  • When you replace the first "d" in "dad" with a "Ch"

  • This is what led me to realize that white queer people and white women are absolutely not worth my fucking time.

  • Online discourse is so unproductive and useless in a lot of cases because people are too busy thinking of an archetype to associate with your takes rather than the actual merit of any takes you give.

    For example, if a liberal sees you criticizing Democrats, they just immediately interpret you as being some "MAGA idiot" archetype and use that to automatically feel justified in insulting and/or dismissing you, not actually engage with the contents of what you're saying.

    Conversely, this reminds me of a time I said something critical of Trump in a YouTube comment section, and someone randomly came at me with "But Biden did this!"

    MF, I didn't say jack or shit about Biden. Dafuq you talking about?

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  • Something I am realizing about why I feel uncomfortable interacting with some Black people who have some other big part of their identity or interests in common with me is that a lot of them really do seem to be "Black second."

    For example, now that I think about it, some other Black queer people I have talked to act like they are queer first and Black second.

    Both are important, of course, but my mentality could never work like this again.

    I can never feel like anything is more important than my Blackness. Back when I actually did think that way, my self-esteem was in the damn toilet.

    Something I noticed is that the difference between many white queer people I interact with and many Black cishet people I interact with is that, even if the Black cishet people can be some bit queerphobic, they still treat me far more like a human being at the end of the day.

  • Self bumping

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  • music @hexbear.net

    King's X - Prisoner [Hard Rock/Progressive Metal] (4:15) - 1992

  • music @hexbear.net

    Sum 41 - The Hell Song [Pop Punk] (3:19) - 2002

  • music @hexbear.net

    Megadeth - Ride the Lightning (Metallica Cover) [Thrash Metal] (6:12) - 2026

  • mutual_aid @hexbear.net

    Some food help

  • mutual_aid @hexbear.net

    Need help with internet and phone bill for this month - was due yesterday, explained in body

  • memes @hexbear.net

    packwatch

  • music @hexbear.net

    Animals as Leaders - Another Year [Instrumental Progressive Metal] (3:51) - 2014

  • chat @hexbear.net

    My grandparents showed up again and I am totally confused on what to do to reinforce this

  • mutual_aid @hexbear.net

    [300 USD / 1,000 USD] Rent Posting - Day 14 (Due December 1st) - Around 30 Hours Left

  • vegan @hexbear.net

    Natalie Fulton - Redditor Exposes Meat Industry Propaganda? I'm skeptical... (8:55)

  • mutual_aid @hexbear.net

    [300 USD / 1,000 USD] Rent Posting - Day 13 (Due December 1st)

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    [120 USD / 1,000 USD] Rent Posting - Day 12 (Due December 1st)

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    Rent Posting - Day 11 (Due December 1st)

  • badposting @hexbear.net

    My roommate, Dee, ordered a big box of assorted almonds, cashews, and pistachios, and the package just arrived

  • mutual_aid @hexbear.net

    Rent Posting - Day 10 (Due December 1st)

  • mutual_aid @hexbear.net

    Rent Posting - Day 9 (Due December 1st)

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    Rent Posting - Day 8 (Due December 1st)

  • music @hexbear.net

    Lagwagon - Sleep [Skate Punk/Pop-Punk] (1:56) - 1995