Angel [any]

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Ethnic Minorities and People of Color BiWeekly Thread for the 09/03/2026
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Angel [any] @hexbear.net 6h ago
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Ethnic Minorities and People of Color BiWeekly Thread for the 09/03/2026

What the fuck did I just find

Normative take on interracial relationships + my rant

I'm sick and tired of people saying "I only date my own race" or "date your own race" it sounds inappropriate, it sounds racist and it sounds wrong, just as long as the person is kind and is a good person, it should not matter what someone's race and ethnicity is

This is a YouTube comment I copied verbatim from a YouTube video by a more "woke" Black woman talking about interracial relationships. This comment got 60+ likes and no pushback, really.

Listen, I am not going out here and telling other people, "Only date your own race." I got better use of my energy, but what is disturbing is this being conflated with a personal refusal to date out. Saying I "[sound] racist" and "[sound] wrong" just for acknowledging that race matters, and that includes in the context of the relationship with the person I'd be the most intimate and personal with for the rest of my life, is woefully misguided and undialectical.

This should be very obvious, but for some reason, it isn't.

Something that disturbs the shit out of me is people who want to acknowledge that the personal is political for EVERYTHING but romance.

Some of the same "woke" people who want to talk about how race affects experiences in employment, housing, healthcare, education, the media, social life/friendships, hobbies, etc. all of a sudden feel inclined to throw that level of clarity out the window the moment the subject matter is romance. At that point, then they want to just individualize something that they should know exists within a larger system. At that point, it's just about "individual character" and "personal preference."

By the way, personal "preference" does not exist in a vacuum. When a Black man says, "I prefer white women because they're calm, feminine, and have good hair!", that is not some innocuous "preference." That is white supremacy being internalized.

Race is real. It's real via reification of a system predicated on pseudoscience, yes, but it is still real. That does not change just because a Black person and a white person fall for each other.

I truly believe that many people in interracial relationships are not properly equipped for all the extra labor it will entail, and me? I will pass on taking on that additional labor.