I’m self undiagnosing. Nothing is wrong with me. Yay!!!
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wait this is the ultimate move
Since nothing is wrong with me if there is anything wrong, the problem must be other people.
Self diagnosing me being in love with my squid wife (she scares me in a good way)
Yipeeee, I have just self diagnosed myself as not depressed :3
yippee
so proud of you for overcoming adversity
Reminds me of people going back in the closet. Still don’t really get how that works.
You realise that the world around you is hostile to your very existence as an out individual, and you hide part of yourself to survive.
I mean, yeah. Like I said, just confused how someone could go back in with people they’d come out to. If someone ever tried to go back in with me for whatever reason (really hope I never make anyone feel like that, under any circumstance), I’d be like “uh huhhhh, yeah, sure man”. I guess I’m not a big enough piece of shit to really care about someone else’s identity in that way.
Oh yeah for sure. Its hard to imagine someone going back into the closet with you if you’re a decent person 😅
I could also understand just not coming out to certain people bc they can’t keep their mouth shut aroumd certain people. This one girl sat at my lunch table one time in high school, and accidentally told me that this one girl I knew from (Mormon) church was a lesbian (extremely obvious, the closet was glass). I made the mistake of going, “hey you’re gay, right?”, which she denied. Then a few months later, I was sitting with her and her friends, and she told me that she denied it for no good reason. I don’t know why I shared this, but I did.
Sometimes it’s just about doing what you can to survive. Being out opens you up to a lot of disadvantages and hardship depending on where you are and the resources available to you. For some who are struggling to get by and don’t see a way forward, an opportunity to move to a new place or start a new job where people don’t know you’re queer/trans is an unfortunate but reliable option to gain a degree of socioeconomic stability, ideally in preparation for coming out again later on with a better starting hand next time.
Sometimes people look at the hardship they experience and go into denial, figuring they can live permanently in the closet like people used to do and still have a somewhat fulfilling life. I think it’s sad, but sometimes folks just don’t have the fight in them to live as their true selves when all they want is to be seen as “normal”.
I get the motivations. Life is really hard for folks like us, especially in unsympathetic areas. I just mean, how do they manage it? Like, if I told my parents that I’m aroace, and they reacted badly, would I just say, “uhh, nevermind, I was just confused”? Would anyone really believe that? At that point, plausible deniability would just disappear for me. I suppose that if someone’s parents really want a straight kid, their minds would probably do some mental gymnastics.
I don’t necessarily think you’d be going back in the closet to everyone you came out to, but more likely cutting ties with people who take it badly and then playing it safe with a different crowd. Doing a reset somewhere else.
Wouldn’t surprise me though if a lot of the parents out there who take it badly are also “pray away the gay” types who think it can be “cured” with some extra Jesus power. So if you just say “Oh hey I went to church and I’m all better now,” they might be dumb enough to believe it, sad as it is.
