I swear I’m not Jessica

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  • Ideally they’ll start hormones or go off blockers by about 16, but you can’t comprehend that because you already decided that 18 had to be the start point. You don’t want trans kids lucky enough to discover their identity early to transition, probably not thinking through what the consequences are. You hope that they’ll not medically transition, but in all likelihood, they’ll just end up suicidally depressed for no good reason.

    You’re correct in assuming that gender isn’t a choice, but incorrect in how you apply that idea. Attempts have been made to force cis boys that got maimed by botched circumcisions to be girls. They did not end well. Attempts have been made to find alternatives to gender affirmation, but they never work. Nobody can be converted. Nobody knows how.

    Stop being a knob and accept the failures of naive doctors trying to snuff us from existence. You affirm us, or you torture us. There is no other option.




  • Learn to love yourself so you have something to fight for. Be consciously grateful for the good things in life, as you’ll get more happiness out of them than you do now. Live in the moment so you can fully appreciate what you experience.

    Working will still suck and you’ll feel bad sometimes, but so long as you can get everything out of the good; so long as you don’t let bullshit ruin your sense of self, you won’t want to die.

    Filling your life in this way is a constant effort, but it will keep it from being hollow. Novel interests alone can’t compete.








  • “Neurodivergent” is a bit different though. The r-word says something normative about people’s mental development. It’s saying that the person has been prevented from being normal; that something is wrong with them. “Special needs” indicates that someone requires different resources than what is typical. Much like IQ when it was developed, it’s a way to sort people’s needs on an economic basis, which isn’t poorly intentioned. However, it still labels people by how we need certain things within our socioeconomic system.

    Disorder classification systems like the DSM or ICD seek to normalize people, making sure we “function” in society. It measures us by a set of standards to ensure that we can live independently with our environment. It is very much defined by how society is structured; the environment of industrial capitalism. It doesn’t matter how fulfilling your life is, only that you are a functional cog.

    “Neurodivergence” seeks to avoid the pathology based approach. It says nothing about us having disorders. It instead focuses on us as different and divergent from the norm, but not inherently ill because of who we are. It’s invariant to economic systems or cultural norms, only saying that we are different.