She acknowledged that I did talk to her about it beforehand, but hasn’t been able to properly process it yet.

We’re OK, I’m just venting.

  • Shelbyeileen@lemmy.world
    5·
    9 days ago

    Cisgenger woman, so please ignore me if this isn’t welcome, but I would love to help!

    I wash all my bras in the machine, on cold and hang them dry. Putting into a lingerie bag is a personal preference. (I only do it if I’m washing other stuff with zippers) If there are deodorant stains, vinegar is pretty effective. Soak the bra and use either a toothbrush or (I know this sounds crazy) the foam top of a dry-cleaner coat hanger, to scrub off deodorant. Idk why the coat hanger foam works but it’s great!

    🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵 If anyone reading this doesn’t have a person in their life, who they can reach out to for advice about feminine related stuff, feel free to message me. I’m a professional cosplayer and mortician (so a seamstress, SFX makeup artist, wig stylist, all in one), and I’m happy to share any of my knowledge! My friend group is mostly people who loathe and/or changed their assigned gender, so it’s a subject close to my heart. 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

    • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
      1·
      9 days ago

      Yeah I’m trans but I transitioned a decade ago and young enough for my mom to teach me how to girl (ok I was an angsty tomboyish lesbian at the time so I brushed a lot of it off but I did learn to wash a bra)

      And yeah, I used to hand wash and if it’s got hooks or anything delicate it gets hand washed in the sink and hang dried in the shower. Otherwise it joins literally everything else in the washing machine on cold and delicate and thrown in the dryer.

      Has this influenced which bras I buy? Yes. I’ve definitely developed a high effort high femme style, but that’s for high effort time. I’m not putting in that much effort for a bra that’s job is literally just to make me professionally presentable at the factory. Which really is proof I’m my mother’s daughter.