I don’t want to be a downer but I’m struggling with what else I could share with everyone, and I don’t think just saying nothing to anyone will help, i feel insanely lonely in every possible way, people are just so closed off nowadays, I have no actual irl friends and feel everyone else already has friends and what have you and they just see me as excess, work has also been piling up and i had to quit a bunch of stuff just to keep up and I’ve barely been able to get any progress done on any of my artistic projects. Worst of all is i don’t even see a light at the end of the tunnel, i’m known to be rather positive by the little people I keep in touch with but even i don’t see sunshine through the storm, every day all the time i just feel like crying but i can’t, i think this might genuinely be it
Internet hugs! 🤗
It will be okay.
Please make sure to exercise four days a week. Get your heart pumping! Make your muscles sore!
It is hard to feel alone. I have felt alone for years. Even though I am married with children. Life is hard. People are diffused and isolated. It isn’t just you.
It will be okay. Take the opportunity to get to know yourself better. Explore your mind.
Always remember, you are a comrade and you are loved.
I already have a 4 day a week workout program, it’s the only thing I can manage to keep up with these days, obviously no means to visit a gym or really none near me in general but I like to imagine with a backpack full of rocks you can achieve anything
If you’re still lonely while married and with kids then I’m probably going about things the wrong way, I’ve awlays thought getting into a relationship or atleast getting tons of friends will finally make me feel good but maybe that’s not the case, mainstream advice is awlays like “before you seek romance you must be fine on your own” which awlays seemed absurd to me because if I was completely fine on my own and didn’t need a relationship why would I seek one in the first place? I don’t get it
My mind feels all proper explored right about now and I’d say I know myself way better than anyone else but I suppose it doesn’t hurt to do it some more, I just don’t want to sink into myself too much, I can already be a bit of a narcissist sometimes
Good to hear you are exercising. Keep it up. It delays some of the worst effects of aging, and it is the single best thing you can do to help with endorphin production, which can help reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety.
My partner is a source of solace and safety in an unpredictable world, but we are different people with different values. Connecting even within a committed relationship can be difficult and challenging in any relationship, but especially when caring for a disabled child like we are. There is no rule that says you will always be lonely, even in a relationship. If you are comfortable with who you are, loneliness or not, then I’m sure you would be a fine partner within a relationship.
I find that loneliness is probably an important part of the human experience. So learning to live within that feeling could be a helpful journey. All I meant by exploring one’s mind was that you yourself are the only companion whom you are guaranteed to have for your entire life – it is a good idea to make sure you are well acquainted, and often. Oh, and give yourself grace for any short-comings you may discover.
I can only speak from my own perspective, though. So please do what is true and right for you. If you can’t stand feeling lonely, seek out the company of comrades, or failing that, just a little meetup group with frequent events.
Bu… But… I’m your fan and you didn’t even reply to me :(
Regardless, we all hit such periods in life, I absolutely felt like that while I lived in G*rmany for work reasons. I’m very glad I made the decision to come back even with a big pay cut, you should think about where you want your life to go and what you prioritize and chase it, it’s worth it
sorry i was in such a bad mood i thought you were joking
I’ve already considered a lot of my possibilities and even if i succeed it will be a long ways off from that
Lots of hugs your way, friend, I appreciate your posting and welcome your presence here <3
Honest to god I think everyone feels this way these days to some degree. Not that that makes you feel any better but hopefully it’s some cold comfort knowing you’re not alone.
I’ve been going through similar things. It was a lot worse a few years back, things have gotten a bit better these days but I’m still doing pretty horrible. But the few times I’d actually talk to people I’d hear similar things: don’t really talk to anyone, no time for anything, always tired, etc. Some put on more of a brave face than others but it’s pretty miserable out there
Feel you on the social isolation front. All my friendships end up slowly fading eventually and don’t really have the energy to try anymore. At least I have a rotation of anti-social hyperfocuses to stay busy.
Nah that’s 100% valid fam. That is the headspace and condition that modern, and particularly Western, society drives people to.
Everyone has their own coping mechanisms. Books, video games, meditation. We just need to keep fighting. Keep trying to eke out an existence in a dying world.
Come on down and start another post in chat every now and then. Not everything has to be theory or death or struggle sessions. Talk about life.
I think it’s okay to work a lot when necessary. Try to forgive yourself for it.
i don’t even have time to do my coping mechanisms thats the big issue, its not that im not forgiving myself for working a lot I just like, don’t want to? is that a reasonable thing to say? i wish i could work a lot less
Hell yeah, nothing wrong with labor but everything wrong with labor being exploited. Humans weren’t meant to slave away all day, it’s literally not in our evolutionary biology. We’re supposed to be spending time in communities, relaxing and in recreation.
But I hope eventually your efforts pay off and you get the chance to breathe for a moment. If nothing else, enjoy the brief moments before falling asleep, even if that sleep will be brief itself.
I’ve been there and in some ways, still am. I don’t know what the answer is but we got a decent little forum going here and that’s not all bad.
Time to find some comrades IRL! Find an org?
I agree
the last org i tried out were actual cultists who on the website mentioned that being in the org is way more important than anything else in life, mind you all they did was go on strike and post one piece memes
This is life in the 21st century. I think it’s partly tech, you used to have to go outside and talk to people for most things, now everyone stays indoors. Partly the fact we’re having a mental health crisis and the healthcare systems aren’t dealing with it adequately. But lots of us don’t have irl friends’, you aren’t alone in that.
broooo sorry you’re feeling that way, it sucks. Sometime it’s all cloudy but you gotta trust its gonna dissipate. What helped me is going outside as much as possible, podcasts, be around people, even staying at a coffeeshop for a bit, airplane mode, do slow exercise like yoga. That’s just me though, you gotta find your own way out.
and as other say fighting the good fight and mutual aid helps. But you gotta build the foundation otherwise you can burn out quick.
Good luck and i hope its gonna get better
