What’s something about sex you think is pointless or overrated?
I’ll start with shower sex. Showers are great for foreplay, or for aftercare, but actual sex in the shower? I’m not a massive fan
How about you?
Sex is overrated. Kink and especially longer term stuff (eg. chastity, conditioning) is where it’s at.
Chastity is so hot
+1 for kink!
A little sweat smells hella fuckin’ good. Like, after a hard day outside don’t immediately hop in the shower. Different story if you haven’t cleaned a single part of your body for 3 days. That’s the difference between being musky and being stinky.
I’m really into femdom but pegging doesn’t interest me at all. I don’t want anything up my ass. I just want to be forced to keep fucking through my refractory period.
Omg I love femdom too but I hate how associated it is with pegging. I understand that sex is psychological and there’s a lot of other things that are heavily associated with femdom that won’t cause me sexual pleasure like, idk, toe sucking or smacking a guy in the balls, and I like those things fine, but for some reason with pegging I’m like “but the woman gets nothing out of this”
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OK, good to know. Good. To. Know.
Anal lovers need to calm down and just admit they have a poop fetish. It’s coprophagia plain and clear.
The fetishizing of assholes to the extent Lemmy users CONSTANTLY talk about anal, eating assholes, looking at a gross grody looking fat people’s dark greasy hemorrhoids like it’s a sexy selfie… serious you all need to cool it. You basically eat shit and love it, we get it. It’s gross. Please, there’s no value in sharing to the world how shitty you are.
Saying you love looking at an asshole, digging into it, eating it… just stop calling it that and own up to the fact that you’re shitty sounding, likely full of shit smell, and you like it. You should be shit on as much as you praise it, that’s clearly who you are. But really, you’re a minority and no one cares to hear about shit as much as you love shit.
Edit: I clearly struck a shit covered nerve. No one responding but clearly they vote with their feces.
Must be a lot of shit eating folks there Randers… they must feel triggered getting called out for the shit in their teeth.
How massively ironic that you’re talking shit about your hate for shit
Dudes that like shaved girls strike me as closet Pedos. WOMEN have hair down there. (what? you asked for a hot take)
Also, women who leave it intact strike me as confident in their own skin and confidence in oneself is sexy as hell.
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I believe that is a related, but separate discussion.
Sex, and romantic relationships, are a lot more important than people realize. Unless you’re some variation of asexual/aromantic, it’s a need, just not one that followed by physical issues or even death upon failure of satisfying it. Dismissing them as not important or completely interchangeable with regular friendships/hobbies is dangerous, and leaves an opening for grifters.
it’s a need, just not one that followed by physical issues or even death upon failure of satisfying it
What? Just no… Yes feeling undesirable can seriously hurt one’s self-esteem but at non point can it lead to physical issues.
Onlyfans has gotten out of hand. Generally I have nothing against camgirls or even prostitution. You want to profit from degeneracy, more power to you. But Onlyfans has reached a point where it has completely changed the landscape of short and long-form content on mostly SFW platforms. It has reached the point where any field where women can present themselves in a positive and safe manner has been overtaken by balant self promotion of of Onlyfans content creators. Everything from comedy to music. It seems the meta is to dress in an ridiculously skimpy outfit and “e-girl/goth” makeup and put in the lowest effort to make provactive videos to farm engagement and funnel people to you NSFW content. The problem is that it completely dilutes and overshadows the actual effort women put into their passion.
Sure you can invest 1000s of dollars and 100s of hours to make a detailed cosplay, or you can put on a yellow microbikini and paint red circles on your cheeks and tell people you’re Pikachu and get 100x more views and an influx of paying customers. Why learn classic piano when you can play 4 chords on a guitar in a miniskirt? Why upload a well acted funny skit if you can read a single dad joke in a see-through dress?
It has gotten so bad that whenever you see a woman trying to be mildly entertaining on the internet, you can just type in their name into Google and see her fully naked.
Is a viscous cycle of idiots paying for that content and women being incentivised to reach bigger and bigger audiences to outpace the emotional dept of being a NSFW content creator puts you in.
You want to jack of to goth mommies and instagram bimbos, then keep that shit of non-porn platforms.
Is it that OF has ruined content platforms? Or is it that the only way for people to make money by making content is by doing OF?
IMO there is a societal problem being reflected there.
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Well said.
I dunno what to do about it, but I feel like there are multiple fundamental issues:
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The algorithmic, engagement-optimized platforms juicing the “first stage” (the creator link to OF), for profit, with zero consequences.
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OnlyFans itself, having their cake and eating it. To payment processors and the public, they get to pretend to be a SFW platform when they are clearly not.
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A society/culture that covets influencers, encourages parasocial relationships, and is okay with stupendous levels of OF consumption.
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An economy that funnels young people into this.
Trace all these issues, and a common root seems to be…
Big Tech platforms. Right?
Surprise, surprise.
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