I always tell myself “If you wish that your friends took initiative right now to hang out with you, then do it yourself.” If you wait for them to take initiative, it will likely feel like they took too much time, no matter how much time they actually end up taking. Rather than being sad that your buddies aren’t spending time with you, you can just ask them for it. The worst that can happen is receiving a “no, I’m too busy”, but even then you’ll better grasp your friends’ current situation and potentially get a time frame for the next time you can hang out. That’s what I’ve gathered from my own experience.
This approach helps people like me a lot. I absolutely hate contacting people, and am very anxious regarding keeping up established contacts.
This means i fucking SUCK at keeping contact with people that are important to me.
I know I am not unique. There are many people out there who have the same issues as i have.
To anyone who has contacts who are very timid at keeping in touch or which ghost you even if you think they might be interested in more intense contact - please reach out to us. You make our day, and are the thing that keeps many of us from disappearing,
I always tell myself “If you wish that your friends took initiative right now to hang out with you, then do it yourself.” If you wait for them to take initiative, it will likely feel like they took too much time, no matter how much time they actually end up taking. Rather than being sad that your buddies aren’t spending time with you, you can just ask them for it. The worst that can happen is receiving a “no, I’m too busy”, but even then you’ll better grasp your friends’ current situation and potentially get a time frame for the next time you can hang out. That’s what I’ve gathered from my own experience.
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This approach helps people like me a lot. I absolutely hate contacting people, and am very anxious regarding keeping up established contacts.
This means i fucking SUCK at keeping contact with people that are important to me.
I know I am not unique. There are many people out there who have the same issues as i have.
To anyone who has contacts who are very timid at keeping in touch or which ghost you even if you think they might be interested in more intense contact - please reach out to us. You make our day, and are the thing that keeps many of us from disappearing,