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kluczyczka (she/her)

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just hanging out here.

  • learning to play an instrument on your own, but how/what?

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  • ty! imight as well have a look and decide by what classes are available in my area.

  • learning to play an instrument on your own, but how/what?

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  • i could grab my flatmates guitar. i am somehow intimidated by that thing. but yeah maybe ...

  • learning to play an instrument on your own, but how/what?

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  • just do it? true. you forgot to say popcorn tho. ;)

  • learning to play an instrument on your own, but how/what?

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  • i'll see what i can do. :)

  • learning to play an instrument on your own, but how/what?

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  • thx a lot, for pointingout these ressources!

    as for the why: i just realised that i really do view music as a kind of language, something that can be written down, realised acoustically and (with practice) be understood. that might be a big misconception. but my primary driver is to get a better understanding of what's happening in music in general. just like speaking helps in learning a language, i thought, imitating music should help to learn music. that's maybe why i don't really care for the specific instrument ... it's rather instrumental.

    i wouldn't play with others, or for others. there's not even a style i'd prefer, its just the basic understanding outside of a vague emotional reaction. i can't tell the difference between a chord and a single note. in many cases not even what note is higher. and i feel like that's failure? or at least a shame.

    maybe i need some elementary school level lessons.

  • No Stupid Questions @lemmy.world
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    learning to play an instrument on your own, but how/what?

  • evil

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  • it's eviler gayer personser all the wayer!

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    Hi. Anyone have any info on DIY specific to the uk?

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  • idk if that was stated clearly in the other thread:

    even so we talk about it all rhe time, hrt is not a trans thing. the instructions for my medication assume i am nothing but cis. it's off-label use. (even though the problem is the same, i suffer from low E levels. but sexism.)

    hrt is for everyone but trans ppl it seems. at least that's the public discussion. unforch sometimes it becomes law too.

  • I fucking hate Depression/Dysphoria

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  • I am searching for a therapist, but knowing my luck and wait times in Germany I am not expecting to find something anytime soon and this makes me scared.

    after what you have described, i am glad to hear that you are on to that! since i have had phases, that were as debilitating as this, i want to give you a few options i now know i had and should have taken. i'm gonna throw out ideas i'd suggest my younger self.

    • first, in case that's something you need: be pragmatic about your mental health. therapy of any kind won't suddenly change the stuff you feel dysphoric about, but it might help changing something about that dysphoria.
    • if possible: get a trusted person involved to help you research contacts, manage lists and just be there.
    • if you are in germany: you can go to your general practitioner in an get an refferal to a therapist. i guess your gp will give you the urgent kind. you can then call 116117 with that code to get an appointment somewhere in your area. this is not your new therapist (good in my case bc they were a little transphobic), but you at least get an appointment with a professional, that knows your area. that can help to find further options. esp. for your depression.
    • your university might have a councelling service that might help you find the right therapy and talk through a bit. at least my uni did. students could have 6 appointments i guess. thats not much but better than nothing.
    • if you feel like you wanna talk at 2:30, there are helplines you can call. and talk.
    • also use trans self help groups to get all of that frustration out, whenever possible. it heloed me a lot. ;)

  • CDU in BW kopiert AfD-Kulturkampf

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  • ahh sry ich hab nen anderen Satz haluziniert.

  • CDU in BW kopiert AfD-Kulturkampf

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  • wir stecken energie in nebenbaustellen (hinein) -> akkusativ

    danach erst steckt sie in der nebenbaustelle (drin) -> dativ

    das beispiel müsste kongruieren also "(in) das richtige gendern"

  • CDU in BW kopiert AfD-Kulturkampf

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  • gelöscht. war doof.

  • CDU in BW kopiert AfD-Kulturkampf

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  • wenn die cdu genderns wegen von kasusflexion, kommasetzung und groß-klein-schreibung überfordert ist, könnten wir ihr als gesellschaft kostenlose nachhilfe in deutsch geben. ich seh nur nicht, warum das die schulen auch noch leisten sollen.

    ...

    ... damit sich alle bürger und bürgerinnen wieder sicher fühlen können.

    höre ich da einen anflug von inklusivität, geschlechtlicher? gedern gar? aber wieso nur die bürgys du fieser mensch?!

  • How come in movies tv shows books etc at court they make it seem like swearing on the bible prevents you from lieing? If my family or I was in danger I would lie my ass off to get out of it..

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  • you need more upvotes!

  • How come in movies tv shows books etc at court they make it seem like swearing on the bible prevents you from lieing? If my family or I was in danger I would lie my ass off to get out of it..

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  • it is a real threat.

    there are different tiers of punishment for lies. if you swore to tell the truth, but demonstrably lied, this will f up your life further.

  • A friend made a really unflattering comparison and I'm feeling really hurt.

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  • i don't think you are wrong here. but i can see how one can fall into that pit, when getting such a text. you provided the most charitable interpretation, that's an important point imho. it might even match the intentions of the sender.

    it at least tells us that the sender isn't aware of the level of insecurities op has. if i may assume a best case, they might have witnessed op's transition from early on and are now seeing her at a high level of confidence, so that they just thought being overly cautious wasn't neccessary anymore? and promptly hurt op unwillungly.

    i guess that's for them to explain. if op wants to know.

  • A friend made a really unflattering comparison and I'm feeling really hurt.

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  • hehe, thx!

    it's just that she used 'vent' and i try to adapt to cues. maybe this system is not well calibrated yet. (my therapist actually wanted me to get a diagnosis. maybe someday ... 🤔)

    why did i even mention i had written more? maybe to tell i cared my way, without bombarding her with the results?

    i am since trying to grasp why it is, that society compares ppl to other ppl so much. children have "their dad's eyes", "their mom's nose" or whatever. and it only starts there. while there were moments in which i understood such comparisons, even found them evident, even across generations genders etc. (that is: there was a specific, kinda unique thing i saw in someone i knew from someone else) i always knew how dangerous it is to just blurt that stuff out. because it touches the self of a person, and that can easily go terribly wrong. i don't even comment on people's haircuts when i think it's nice, because who knows if they like it? maybe after a few month, with no changes ...

    maybe that's my anxiety speaking, but i don't get why people are so care- and thoughtless. this is a way bigger thing to me, than just cis2trans-communication. sure if you compare, you should always state what aspect makes A reminiscent of B. especially when comparing a transfem to a dude. even better: shut up for good, goddammit!

  • A friend made a really unflattering comparison and I'm feeling really hurt.

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  • 🧸🦈

    this sounds terrible. i just now deleted a little wall of text, i deemed irrelevant. i hope you'll get back on top soon. ❤️‍🩹

  • HRT is great. (for me. and it's a bit scary. for me.)

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  • little update

    i went to buy new shorts for doing sports. i wear leggins+shorts for a while now.but i only had some random shorts. i made sure that i'd get the new ones a little oversized, so they hide what's to be hidden and make my hips look a little wider (both perfectly).

    also i found a cheap padded sportsbra which is becoming necessary. boobs hurt a lot, when anything happens to them. the pads of course make my smol but growing breasts more visible. i wouldn't wear just that, so i tried on different tops at home. then i cried. because i felt like i looked good for the first time. no matter how shoddy the shirt. then i showed my flatmates and cried more.

    i guess i will like my breasts and hope for more hrt magic to happen. :)))

  • HRT just released some new Dysphoria I guess.

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  • i don't think that's unusual. i started having this feeling when i moved in my early twenties and started living openly gay. i mourned the teen-years i missed. now i wonder what my twenties would have looked like, when i would heve had more clearvoyance back then, and would have realised i was trans. i sometimes feel a bit jealous for younger people, who accepted themselves earlier. that's ugly. very ugly. but i'm also happy to see this happen. that more younger people got the courage now.

    it seems always too late. but don't let the romanticised version of 'youth' like it is displayed in various media get too much in your head. it's just that a youth written by melancholic adults.

    people say the older you get, the better it gets. you know yourself better, meet people, that know themselves better. i guess love gets less chaotic and more honest. (afaik it really does.) make it happen now! you are at uni, i remember? join some clubs that have an equal or bigger percentage of women (i did with theater) you will find yourself some more friends. :)

  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    kluczyczka (she/her) @discuss.tchncs.de

    HRT is great. (for me. and it's a bit scary. for me.)

  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    kluczyczka (she/her) @discuss.tchncs.de

    i feel like i didn't do my homework

  • linuxmemes @lemmy.world
    kluczyczka (she/her) @discuss.tchncs.de

    at least i found a reliable man

  • Transfem @lemmy.blahaj.zone
    kluczyczka (she/her) @discuss.tchncs.de

    The big frustration

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    ich❓iel