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[鳳凰院 凶真 Hououin Kyouma]|[alt: 黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui]

@ DeathByBigSad @sh.itjust.works

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(He/Him/佢/他)美籍華人 Chinese American

Native Speaker of:粵語/廣東話 Cantonese国语/普通话 Mandarin台山話 Taishanese

alts: @WongKaKui@piefed.social

消滅中共，建新中華！

  • Are we deprogramming empathy in the US?

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  • I hate the the fact that if I tell my views to people, ML's automaticaly call me a conservative, and conservatives call me a stalin-supporter.

    That's what I get for having nuanced views lmao.

  • How did you guys celebrate Christmas this year?

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  • Don't be. Last year I was forced to be with relatives in NYC, I hated it even more. Too much people, I think I have sensory issues, NYC was filled with graffiti, streets were kinda dirty (no offense to New Yorkers, it's just facts, I used to live there btw) and I'm kinda germophobic, so that really made me anxious af. My interversion kicked in and my heartrate went up, conversation drains my energy, i never really connected with any of them.

    We went to some Chinese restaurant in Brooklyn.

    One of the relative had a kid that was eating with their hands and OMFG god damn drooling over their plate, then grabbed the food in the middle of the table with their hands and like probably contaminated it. And it had the glass thingy where you can rotate the center of the table so I felt like the contamination has infected everything.

    Like my anxiety just went from 50 to 110.

    I didn't say anything out lous but kinda whispered it to my parents.

    I felt kinda sick, not sure if its placebo/nocebo effect

    I felt even more depressed being there, everyone just talking and being happy, and me just being sad.

    Also most of the cousins are American-born, so they had English at the start. I was born in China, didn't really know English until I was like 10, and didn't speak it fluently enough until I was probably 12 at the time. And one of the cousins bullied me. I think its one of these American-born Chinese and China-born Chinese have like conflicts or something. I get alienated from the start, so that's probably why I never feel belonging. Even in school, US-born Chinese kids still bullied me, only those who spoke Cantonese or on rare occasions there's a Mandarin speaker. I only got along with those. Language tribalism I guess.

    By the time I learned English to a conversational level, that I feel confident in, I no longer feel connected to those cousins.

    As for adults, that's a generation divide, even if I know the language.

    The Adults were all born in China or HK so they get along well.

    The like 5 cousins all were born in the US, spoke English at the start, so they go along well.

    Me and my older brother were born in China, so we got isolated from the rest of our extended family.

    My older brother and I had fights, so we no longer talk.

    So yea... there is discrimination even when you are from the same ancestry and bloodlines, just because of the language barrier (the language barrier that no longer exist anymore, but now it became an emotional barrier, now its too late and its too awkward, and we don't even live in New York anymore

  • How did you guys celebrate Christmas this year?

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  • Just chilling at home, depressed

  • Say, the country/countries you have citizenship in, decided to not want you anymore and threw you to some random "3rd world country", how do you survive?

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  • "Fluent"

    😅

    (2nd grade level fluent)

    I mean, I guess I'll find the nearest Chinese Diaspora community and hope for the best. I almost forgot about the diaspora communities lol.

  • Ashmelissaleigh

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  • 会多语的人加入了这群聊

    (People who know multiple languages have joined the chat)

  • Say, the country/countries you have citizenship in, decided to not want you anymore and threw you to some random "3rd world country", how do you survive?

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  • be viewed as helpful enough to the community to gain some level of security

    My useless depressed ass is definitely getting gunned down on sight

    I'd just be a burden to everyone

    😭

  • What do you want for Christmas?

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  • They'd be fired by the board like in a nanosecond.

  • Encounter(ule)

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  • Trisolarians Rule

  • Bruh... 🫩

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  • rEdDiT cArEs 🤖

  • How are you really?

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  • I'm not alone, I'm with family, but lonely in a crowd.

    I think my mom just look at me as a failure

    Because I have committed the sin of having this debuff called "depression"

    The bad thing in his world is really just generation trauma

    I mean, would the evil politicians thst we have today, would they even have been evil if they had a normal loving childhood?

    Out world is literally just led by abused children that never grows up, and then they have children who they'll abuse, so then the next generation will be like that again.

  • Say, the country/countries you have citizenship in, decided to not want you anymore and threw you to some random "3rd world country", how do you survive?

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  • You had a bit of access issue tho.

    Like... do you have it as cash on you at all times?

    Your, now-former, country's border agents could just seize it as you're exiting.

    If its in a bank, they have an even easier time seizing it.

  • No Stupid Questions @lemmy.world
    [鳳凰院 凶真 Hououin Kyouma]|[alt: 黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui] @sh.itjust.works

    Say, the country/countries you have citizenship in, decided to not want you anymore and threw you to some random "3rd world country", how do you survive?

  • ICE detains woman whose lawyer insists is US citizen. DHS says she isn't

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  • My wife was adopted by naturalized citizens

    Relevent: Korean Adoptees that got deported because their stupid adoptive parents didn't file paperworks.

    Prior to the passage of the Child Citizenship Act of 2000, the adoptive parents of adoptees had to file for their child to naturalize before the age of 16. Many parents were unaware of this requirement, assuming that their adopted children automatically derived citizenship from them, and therefore did not apply. The Child Citizenship Act sought to remedy this issue by extending citizenship to all international adoptees who were under 18 at the time that the bill was passed, but did not apply retroactively.

    Under the Child Citizenship Act, intercountry adopted children do not qualify for acquired citizenship through their adoptive parents if they were 18 years or older on February 27, 2001, the effective date of the act. If these adoptees never naturalized while they were children, they did not become United States citizens and remain at risk for deportation unless they naturalized later as adults.

  • How do I deal with the outside world when I have germaphobia and don't really like outside?

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  • You just need to get the gunk off them before touching your face

    My face is itchy and I wanna touch it all the time 🙃

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    Do you believe people should have the right to self-destruct if they want to?

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  • More like: Punch a nazi

    xD

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    Do you believe people should have the right to self-destruct if they want to?

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  • I'll think of it this way: suicide is potentially killing a future-you that would denounce your current intentions to die.

    I don't know which part of me would win this battle, but if my will to live manage to win over my suicidal feelings, I bet a future-me would look back and be like: "fuck past-me, that bastard almost killed me"

  • What are your favourite non-political Lemmy communities?

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  • !theasiandiaspora@piefed.social My home away from home - Currenly only have like... 3 (?) users actually part of the diaspora but like a bunch of... I guess sort of guests? (Okay slightly political, but only when relevent)

    !ocpoetry@piefed.social & !originalpoetry@literature.cafe - Original Poetry - I mean I don't think political poems are banned, but if it does get political, at least its poetic.

    !casualconversation@lemmy.world

    !chinese@lemmy.world - Language stuff, should be apolitical

    !cat@lemmy.world

    !android@lemmy.world

    !android@lemdro.id

    !technology@lemmy.world - I mean politics is kinda intertwined... so just slightly political

    !showerthoughts@lemmy.world - Sometimes political, sometimes apolitical

  • Rare footage from trial of Chinese general who defied Tiananmen crackdown order leaked online

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  • Somebody did something to make thing better, we need to do it again

    (Xinhai Revolution 2025 Edition)

  • Bother Bother Bother

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  • Squeeze the cat

    Squeeze the chonker

  • Are we deprogramming empathy in the US?

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  • Independence can be weaponized to make people fight each other.

    So can collectivism be used to manipulate people to sacrifice "for the common good", like for example, forcing you to be in the military to "fight for our country" in foreign wars.

    Me vs Us

    Us vs Them

    Both can be problematic.

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    [鳳凰院 凶真 Hououin Kyouma]|[alt: 黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui] @sh.itjust.works

    How many of you young adults here still live with parents/relatives?

  • No Stupid Questions @lemmy.world
    [鳳凰院 凶真 Hououin Kyouma]|[alt: 黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui] @sh.itjust.works

    How do I deal with the outside world when I have germaphobia and don't really like outside?

  • Showerthoughts @lemmy.world
    [鳳凰院 凶真 Hououin Kyouma]|[alt: 黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui] @sh.itjust.works

    Do rich people in landlocked countries have yachts?

  • Showerthoughts @lemmy.world
    [鳳凰院 凶真 Hououin Kyouma]|[alt: 黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui] @sh.itjust.works

    The future of human gene editing is quite scary since they could add genes that makes people more obedient. Goodbye to freedom forever.

  • Showerthoughts @lemmy.world
    [鳳凰院 凶真 Hououin Kyouma]|[alt: 黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui] @sh.itjust.works

    The invention of smartphones probably made the idea of international travel less intimidating since you now have a pocket translator tool and can find your way in a foreign place with GPS navigation.

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    [鳳凰院 凶真 Hououin Kyouma]|[alt: 黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui] @sh.itjust.works

    Does anyone actually like... talk to extended family/relatives? Like an active effort to maintain relations and not just because of forced family gatherings?

  • Showerthoughts @lemmy.world
    [鳳凰院 凶真 Hououin Kyouma]|[alt: 黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui] @sh.itjust.works

    Entertainment would be a lot less shitty if there is a legally-enforcible International Law that bans the act of cancelling TV Shows and forces all TV Shows to have a decently written ending.

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    [鳳凰院 凶真 Hououin Kyouma]|[alt: 黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui] @sh.itjust.works

    Do you think western countries would benefit from adopting Asian Countries' harsh anti-drugs policies? Why or why not?

  • Mental Health @lemmy.world
    [鳳凰院 凶真 Hououin Kyouma]|[alt: 黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui] @sh.itjust.works

    Why do parents just tell you "it's in the past, 'just let go' of it", when you talk about trauma? Like geez I wish I could just let go...

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    [鳳凰院 凶真 Hououin Kyouma]|[alt: 黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui] @sh.itjust.works

    Would you eat food items that has its packaging damaged? If no, what do you do with it? Attempt return/refund or just discard?

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    [鳳凰院 凶真 Hououin Kyouma]|[alt: 黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui] @sh.itjust.works

    How much does your parents understand you vs how much do you understand your parents? If you have children: How much do you understand your children, do you think they understand you?

  • No Stupid Questions @lemmy.world
    [鳳凰院 凶真 Hououin Kyouma]|[alt: 黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui] @sh.itjust.works

    How young do you have to be to get kidnapped and never realizing that you were kidnapped?

  • Showerthoughts @lemmy.world
    [鳳凰院 凶真 Hououin Kyouma]|[alt: 黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui] @sh.itjust.works

    Judging by how many users on the internet telling Americans to "just move to another country lolz", people must think immigration laws are very lax or something... (it's not)

  • Mental Health @lemmy.world
    [鳳凰院 凶真 Hououin Kyouma]|[alt: 黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui] @sh.itjust.works

    I have a weird obsession of death and like... I'm curious how many people would even attend my funeral, curious about what everyone actually thinks of me...

  • Showerthoughts @lemmy.world
    [鳳凰院 凶真 Hououin Kyouma]|[alt: 黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui] @sh.itjust.works

    People around the world are trying to learn English because it's the Lingua Franca, but imagine if the Lingua Franca of the world was a Tonal Language and the writing system was Logographic.

  • No Stupid Questions @lemmy.world
    [鳳凰院 凶真 Hououin Kyouma]|[alt: 黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui] @sh.itjust.works

    When a parent's primary/preferred language differs from their child(ren)'s primary/preferred language, who should have the most "obligation" to learn more of the other's preferred language?

  • Showerthoughts @lemmy.world
    [鳳凰院 凶真 Hououin Kyouma]|[alt: 黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui] @sh.itjust.works

    Transliterated country names into Chinese Language use pre-existing characters that already has its own meaning, therefore native Chinese speakers have a subconcious impression based on country names.

  • Mental Health @lemmy.world
    [鳳凰院 凶真 Hououin Kyouma]|[alt: 黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui] @sh.itjust.works

    You know like... there are just events in your life that only your close family members know about and can really understand, that even a therapist will never truely feel and understand... and...