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Waldelfe

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  • OpenAI retired its most seductive chatbot – leaving users angry and grieving: ‘I can’t live like this’

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  • Reminds me a bit of the 90s when a popular boyband like Take That disbanded and they had to set up hotlines for distressed teens.

    People have gotten used to parasocial relationships with people they will never meet in real life and it only got worse when the "relationship" to celebrities started feeling more personal thanks to social media. People got used to feeling close to people they only ever interacted with through text, so people getting attached to chatbots feels like a logical result of this development.

  • The 1912 Olympic Games in Stockholm, the two best members of the Swedish group shooting team

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  • Or from inadvertently moving it in a way that moves the whole body.

  • What dating apps are really optimizing. Hint: it isn’t love

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  • I liked dating platforms way back in the days when you could make your own page, had large text fields to describe yourself and could filter by age, location and maybe a few other important things like smoking or wanting kids. Years later I tried the apps and it was just frustrating and nothing else. There wasn't even really space to describe yourself or show your character.

  • What would you do if a mummy came back to life in front of you?

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  • Also a good idea. Maybe he woke up before and learned the language.

  • What would you do if a mummy came back to life in front of you?

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  • I assumed some kind oft translation spell to be in place so he would instantly understand the language of the place he resurrects in.

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
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    What would you do if a mummy came back to life in front of you?

  • Are gender-exclusive groups ever ok?

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  • I'm not talking about friend groups, just groups that are open to the public. Friend groups are OK in whatever constellation you wish.

    Your choir has a good reason to be men only, since that creates a certain sound.

    It gets tricky when the point of the group or club is something not related to gender. I don't think an all-female board game club that is open to the public but only lets women join would be OK. Personally I think you can have your meetings for only people of your gender when you organize them only for yourself. But as soon as you do something publicly, you don't get to say "everybody can come except group X" without a good reason.

    That goes for men and women, I'm also not a fan of "xy only for girls" clubs without a good reason.

  • Are gender-exclusive groups ever ok?

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  • Gender exclusive groups are OK when there is a legitimate reason. Unfortunately it just so happens that women-exclusive groups have a legitimate reason very often, which is usually "I don't want to be hit on in every activity I do".

    Why are there women only career events? Because many women experience going to "normal" career events, have nice conversations, thinking they made a good business connection just to be asked out on a date and ghosted when they decline. They don't get the same benefits out of "normal" events as men do.

    Why are there women only gyms? Because women want to do sports without being hit on regularly.

    Now you could say "Well, but that's a problem of some men not sticking to the rules. Just enforce the rules." But the problem is, the rules aren't being enforced, women aren't taken seriously or just told to suck it up, that's part of life. You're in a public space so it's OK for a man to ask you out. To which the women's reaction is: "Well, then I'd rather do X in a private space where there aren't any men who could hit on me."

    As long as there are struggles that men face exclusively it's totally ok to have men only groups. The problem:

    1. men do not face the problem of being put in uncomfortable situations by women almost anywhere they go, so they have less topics or activities where they feel like they need a men's only group. For most topics/activities men can go to a mixed-gender group and have the same experience as they would in a male-only group. Women can't.
    2. a lot of men's groups do not form around "we want to address a typical male problem" but "we have prejudices about women being bad at x" or "we just hate women".

    And lastly historically the reason why women wanted to join male-only groups was because those groups were often used to make decisions and policies. Business is being made in golf clubs and was made in "gentlemen's clubs". Women wanting to join those wasn't about playing golf. Sure, we can have a women's club to play golf. It was about being left out of the informal decision making process, the deal making. In my personal experience women are more likely to discuss work matters at work with everybody and at any "women only" outing with colleagues work was hardly a topic. Whereas when it happened that men went drinking with "just the boys" the next day important decisions had been made and suddenly Mark was in charge of the new project. Just my personal experience and I'm not saying it can't happen the other way around in female dominated fields.

  • Are gender-exclusive groups ever ok?

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  • Because women's shelters need to exist even if men are domestically abused too and never in my fucking life have I heard anyone suggest a battered men's shelter might even maybe be a good idea.

    I don't know where you live but men's shelters are a thing. At least I know about them in Germany, the US has them, too. A large problem for men's shelters (and why there aren't as many as women's shelters) is that they want to have only male staff (just like women's shelters employ only women as staff), but there are less men going into social work. Also, men's shelters don't get the publicity women's shelters get, so that is definitely a thing that should change. Men talking about being abused by women should be made more normal and I think it would help if there were more stories in the media about men fleeing from abuse and going to a men's shelter. That would make the concept more widely known.

  • Jeffrey Epstein claimed Donald Trump’s friends ‘were concerned about dementia’ after 2017 dinner, emails show

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  • It's also probably bad for your business model if the blackmailed person is so far gone he starts talking about confidential information in public.

  • Which high school friend took a path you didn't expect?

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  • A good friend in school always had really good grades. She worked hard, had mostly As and wanted to become a scientist since 5th grade, later she was mostly interested in biology and wanted to go into genetics. She graduated with really good grades, the second best student of our year, and would have probably made it into a field of her choosing. When I looked her up years later she had studied art and works at an art gallery. I'm happy for her if that's what she wanted, but she had talked about studying biology nonstop from 5th grade to graduation.

  • Ich🤑ieL

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  • Oft stinkt der Fisch vom Kopf her. Da sitzt dann jemand weiter oben, guckt dem Einkauf auf die Finger und macht Vorgaben, wie viel Geld die ausgeben können. "Also ich hab das mal gegoogelt und find hier 10 Optionen, die günstiger sind. Warum habt ihr soviel Geld dafür ausgegeben?" Oder die Boni sind an Ziele in der Kostenreduktion geknüpft oder ähnliche Späße.

    Wenn man den Händler noch nicht kennt, verstehe ich aber auch nicht warum man nicht erst eine Testcharge anfordert und damit testet, ob die Qualität für den Zweck reicht. Das ist nämlich absolut üblich, erstmal verschiedene Hersteller zu testen und die meisten vernünftigen Produzenten schicken Testchargen kostenlos oder nur zu Versandkostenpreis wenn die Aussicht auf längerfristige Kooperationen besteht.

  • Where to go now since Linux is mainstream

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  • Die coolen Kids benutzen MS-DOS 1.0.

  • What skills did almost everybody have 50 years ago, but few people have today?

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  • I was so confused by this comment until I remembered that US-american streets are planned and numbered. Because while I grew up in a village in the 90s, I wouldn't be able to tell you where the "Primrosestreet" or the "Blackbird street" is unless I had friends who lived there.

  • Is there any way to view read history?

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  • I hate that, too. I'll start reading comments on a post on the bus. When I get off and put the phone away or check the timetables on another app I'll have to find the post again when I come back to Lemmy. I wish there was a way to stop this behavior.

  • Papers, please

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  • The photo seems to be zoomed in on a smartphone camera. Looks to me like the person who took the picture stood further away and used a digital zoom. And the guy on the left is holding a weapon. The chest patch of the guy on the left is at an angle where you can't read it anyway. I don't see signs of AI, just a low quality, zoomed in smartphone picture.

  • Papers, please

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  • Every morning I read the news from the US and am shocked by how much they sound like a homework exercise with the prompt: Imagine the Hitler regime happened today. What would the news headlines look like?

  • Wie geht's euch eigentlich mit all dem Wahnsinn gerade?

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  • Mir geht es garnicht gut. Mein Mann ist in der Ukraine (damals SU) geboren. Als der Krieg losging war nicht ganz klar, ob sie ihn einziehen würden. Er hat doppelte Staatsbürgerschaft, weil die Ukraine ihn nicht ausbürgert. Also haben wir nicht nur immer im Hinterkopf was passieren sollte, wenn die Ukraine ihn doch mal versuchen sollte einzuziehen. Wir machen uns auch Sorgen was passiert, wenn die AfD an die Macht kommt und Gesetze gegen Personen mit Geburtsort außerhalb von Deutschland erlässt.

    Jobmässig läuft es bei mir richtig scheiße (bei ihm zum Glück gut) und das macht mich psychisch fertig. Es scheint auch überall salonfähig geworden zu sein, sich wie der letzte Arsch zu benehmen. Ich fühle mich manchmal zu politisch korrekt für die Welt. Ehemalige Freunde sind seit Corona komplett nach rechts gedriftet. Ich fühle mich einfach ganz oft falsch hier.

  • Trump declares himself president of Venezuela — and sends 'wake-up call' to world

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  • While they didn't 100% buy into all the details of Nazi ideology, the Japenese did believe themselves to be the superior race among the Asian peoples.

  • What is the actual worst TV series you've ever tried to seriously engage with?

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  • Same for me. I think I made it to season 3, but it was so annoying how everybody was just a massive asshole and over the top cruel.

  • DACH - Deutschsprachige Community für Deutschland, Österreich, Schweiz @feddit.org
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    Vom Krebs geheilt und dann diskriminiert

    www.tagesschau.de /investigativ/panorama/krebs-heilung-anerkennung-versicherungen-100.html
  • Today I Learned @lemmy.world
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    TIL about Alexandra David-Neel, first european woman to enter Lhasa

  • Fuck AI @lemmy.world
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    All my classmates are using AI and I hate it

  • Buy European @feddit.uk
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    Software: Period tracking with drip.

  • Science Fiction @lemmy.world
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    What are things that mildly annoy you in SciFi?