Assian_Candor [comrade/them]

Organic guy. Silicon Valley hater.

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Cake day: November 26th, 2022

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  • I think this needs some nuance. Having kids in the US especially is certainly very hard. On the whole though the positives dramatically outweigh the negatives. For me at least it is the greatest joy in life. But not without its drawbacks. My wife and I spend less time together. My health has suffered as I have less time for fitness.

    Doing this without community support however is extremely difficult if not impossible. Taking care of a family consumes all your free time, and marriages suffer. No two ways about it. The relationship needs to be really strong to shoulder the burden alone.

    If you have family to help that burden lightens considerably. Obviously if you are a single parent it’s much harder as well. It truly does take a village and in the US we have no village.

    Still I wouldn’t trade being a father for anything in the world. I love my kids and raising them is my life’s most noble purpose.