• molave@reddthat.com
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    14 days ago

    It’s not “gaslighting yourself into being okay”. It’s more like being real to yourself on what you feel and what you need.

    I was like this before, and with the benefit of hindsight, that was me in emotional reasoning, “I feel this, therefore it is reality”. Your feelings are (and continue to be) valid. At the same time, it can be disconnected to actual observable reality, and at worst, bring your worst fears into a self-fulfilling prophecy: something like “my crush did not reply to me, so I suck as a person, so I don’t want to socialize with anyone, because, surely I suck, right?”, when in fact, said crush was just having a busy day in their life. CBT techniques can help you move forward and break self-destructive cycles.