One side of it is the vulnerability and embarrassment. Like, swap the genders and you’ve got the old-school “ditzy secretary” trope, “Oh no, I spilled coffee all over your important papers! You’re not mad at me are you?” There’s probably no specific gene anymore than there’s a “attracted to ditzy secretary” gene.
There can be other dynamics at play with the way men tend to put on fronts. Guy fails at something, the front drops, they’re suddenly in unfamiliar territory, you’re seeing a side they don’t show to the world. You can see how they handle stress, like do they throw the controller or do they get mopey or what, it can show emotional maturity.
Unearned confidence or overconfidence can also be hot. Like, guy who isn’t actually that good at anything but believes in himself 100% and bounces back from disappointment always looking to prove himself and show off, there’s something kind of endearing about that, and it might make them more approachable and relatable than someone who’s actually just good at everything.
Basically there’s a lot of stuff it can tap into and the D/s dynamic is often a big factor but not necessarily the only one.
One side of it is the vulnerability and embarrassment. Like, swap the genders and you’ve got the old-school “ditzy secretary” trope, “Oh no, I spilled coffee all over your important papers! You’re not mad at me are you?” There’s probably no specific gene anymore than there’s a “attracted to ditzy secretary” gene.
There can be other dynamics at play with the way men tend to put on fronts. Guy fails at something, the front drops, they’re suddenly in unfamiliar territory, you’re seeing a side they don’t show to the world. You can see how they handle stress, like do they throw the controller or do they get mopey or what, it can show emotional maturity.
Unearned confidence or overconfidence can also be hot. Like, guy who isn’t actually that good at anything but believes in himself 100% and bounces back from disappointment always looking to prove himself and show off, there’s something kind of endearing about that, and it might make them more approachable and relatable than someone who’s actually just good at everything.
Basically there’s a lot of stuff it can tap into and the D/s dynamic is often a big factor but not necessarily the only one.