• blindbunny@lemmy.ml
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    10 months ago

    Hey! Bi cis male here, the few men I seem to go on dates with always seem to have some hangup. I’m not gay enough, I’m married to a women, hates vegans, hates trans people. It’s really exhausting to the point that first dates feel like I’m interviewing them.

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        10 months ago

        I get what you mean but it shouldn’t feel like that. I shouldn’t be searching for something they might hate me over.

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          10 months ago

          Yeah, when I met my wife the first time it was the opposite of exhausting. I felt like I could keep talking all night.

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            10 months ago

            Dude same. It was really easy to date before 2016. First date with my wife we kept talking until the bar closed.

            Now you have to look into your meeting spot make sure nothing problematic happened there. I was lucky that my enbyfriend friend was in the music scene when I was because I already knew a lot about them before our relationship started.

            Now if someone is interested in me. I’m always skeptical. I recently got asked to help this straight lady cheat on her husband because she wanted to create strife for a divorce. Like who TF what’s to be involved with that stress?

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      10 months ago

      As a straight man I could say similar things about most of the women I’ve dated. It’s not a men problem or a women problem, it’s just how dating is. Nobody’s perfect and it’s hard to find someone that fits with you.