Ps - Actually this is also partially unfair. Since being diagnosed as neurodivergent I’ve reflected a lot, and am pretty sure both grandpas were as well, but one received empathy growing up in a white collar household, while the other did not and was from middle of nowhere in a household of miners/farmers/lumberjacks/blacksmith/whateverpaysthebills. Still no way an excuse, but I know they didn’t just fall from coconut trees. But yeah one side likes to emphasize that the men have been in every war since the English colonized the US