The provided image is fairly bad, but there is another part of this thread where some guy is unironically trying to science and logic other people about how “unhealthy” polyamory is, and how it is a “choice” and therefore should be discouraged.
Plus the hundreds of upvotes on deleted comments that were likely … not so good. Though I have no idea how to view deleted comments.
And yes, feel proud of me. I blocked r/neoliberal. A small step towards better mental health.
Personally I’m not poly but I’ve hung around with poly people and it just seems exhausting lol. And it always seemed like at least someone involved was not happy with the situation.
Each to their own of course but relationships are hard enough, I don’t need more variables 😅
i’m the same way, but i think/imagine to most poly people, they’d feel trapped/suffocated by monogamy to the same degree you or I would feel exhausted by polyamory. and then ofc, there’s a whole range of people who aren’t strictly one or the other and are open to a variety of relationship styles/structures.
Obviously, I cannot and do not speak for the whole of the Poly population.
As someone who is poly and spent a decade in a practically monogamous relationship(It’s a lot to explain, but boils down to I didn’t feel like I actually could have another partner with the one I was with actually being happy), yeah. It was absolutely exhausting on both the mental and emotional level, and I didn’t even realize how much it was hurting until I was free of that situation.
But you’re very right! Not every situation works for everybody. We all need to recognize our own needs, especially in emotional relationships, and work to best meet them as we can.
Ya for sure. The closest I’ve personally gotten is a sorta open thing for six months, but I genuinely didn’t even have time to date a second person. I think my partner at the time went on like two dates the whole time. Between work and activism and life in general I’d rather dedicate my limited dating time to one person, at least for quite a while in the beginning. But to thine own heart be true.
I think like 1/3 of the people I know are in marriages that count as not happy with the situation. Overall I think I see a higher success rate for poly relationships than normative ones