I mean I am AFAB and I do identify as a girl but also I don’t feel entirely binary. I guess I wasn’t assigned Nonbinary at birth but it still feels weird to say I’m trans when I’m AFAB and present and act like and call myself a girl. I don’t know, help me out here people.
Trans means gender different from what was assign to you at birth.
Therefore if you wasn’t born assigned as non-binary, your trans. Of course as someone who’s non binary, I know that can be a lot of different things so maybe by default nonbinary is always trans?
Also gender expression and gender identity are two separate things. You can be a cis guy and be feminine looking and still not be trans. Remember, clothing and what you present doesn’t dictate what gender you are.
The trans-prefix means ‘across’ , ‘on the other side of’. Personally I consider that to mean that transgender = on the opposite side of the spectrum from where you were assigned at birth. So male -> female or female -> male (usually). I wouldn’t automatically consider a non-binary person trans, because they effectively reject the spectrum altogether (so they can’t be ‘on the other side’ of it either).
To me that’s what makes most sense, but as stated elsewhere in this thread it really, really doesn’t matter. Pick whatever labels feel comfortable for your, or pick none at all if none seem to fit best.
That’s a great point. I honestly like the trans flag very much and I’m probably going to use it and wear it since it’s cute and will make other people feel comfortable but will probably use the label strategically to avoid confusion with others thinking I’m a different kind of trans than I actually am. It seems my fear of being seen as appropriating is probably overthought as well.