but for chosen name I have to disagree. I, a cishet man, have a chosen name that my friends call me. it goes beyond a nickname, if I get called my birthname by friends I get weirded out and feel on edge. However, family and coworkers call me by my birth name and thats perfectly fine for me
My family is southern; everyone has a different name than their birth name. It is either picked or assigned by others.
That Is what I tell people about trans people. Just call them what they want to be called, just as you want to be called what you want to be called. It’s not that hard.
And that is fine for you, and for anyone who refers to it as their chosen name, whether they are trans or cis.
But when someone else mentions that Name is a trans person’s “chosen name”, what a bigot’s brain says is “well, I choose to call [them] Deadname which their mom gave [them].”
It’s not their “preferred identity.” It’s their identity.
They are not their “preferred pronouns.” They are their pronouns.
It’s not their “chosen name.” It’s their name.
They don’t “identify as.” They are.
(I know you’re an ally, just wanted to point these things out for all the allies to use slightly better wording.)
I get what you are saying
but for chosen name I have to disagree. I, a cishet man, have a chosen name that my friends call me. it goes beyond a nickname, if I get called my birthname by friends I get weirded out and feel on edge. However, family and coworkers call me by my birth name and thats perfectly fine for me
My family is southern; everyone has a different name than their birth name. It is either picked or assigned by others.
That Is what I tell people about trans people. Just call them what they want to be called, just as you want to be called what you want to be called. It’s not that hard.
And that is fine for you, and for anyone who refers to it as their chosen name, whether they are trans or cis.
But when someone else mentions that Name is a trans person’s “chosen name”, what a bigot’s brain says is “well, I choose to call [them] Deadname which their mom gave [them].”
[with incorrect pronouns here]
I know that I’m 9 days late but thank you for the tip.