For 2. spend the time and do a “spot” test similar to laundry detergents. Some lubes can be very irritating and burn (usually the really cheap ones). It can be somewhat confusing because both the physical stretch and substance irritation feel like a burning sensation.
I personally prefer silicone-based lube for back door play. Lasts a LOT longer, doesn’t get sticky (can get dry, but nowhere near as quickly as water-based, in which case, just apply more lube,) and the overall glide just feels better imo. Clean-up is a little bit more intensive. Just a light scrub with soap and warm water, instead of a quick rinse or wipe. Toy play is a good warm-up. Just make sure your toy is specifically compatible with silicone-based lube or else you risk major problems.
The three most important things, are
A good wash, and optionally a little bit of douching (extra fancy guide) if you want to push it
Lube. However much you think you need, more than that. Simple oils can work fine. Soap is horrible. Store bought water lube is best.
Having fun, a relaxed exploratory afternoon 😊
For 2. spend the time and do a “spot” test similar to laundry detergents. Some lubes can be very irritating and burn (usually the really cheap ones). It can be somewhat confusing because both the physical stretch and substance irritation feel like a burning sensation.
I personally prefer silicone-based lube for back door play. Lasts a LOT longer, doesn’t get sticky (can get dry, but nowhere near as quickly as water-based, in which case, just apply more lube,) and the overall glide just feels better imo. Clean-up is a little bit more intensive. Just a light scrub with soap and warm water, instead of a quick rinse or wipe. Toy play is a good warm-up. Just make sure your toy is specifically compatible with silicone-based lube or else you risk major problems.
That’s cool, but it’s a pretty advanced recommendation (at least where I live, stores don’t stock it, so it’s a little bit more of an investment).
Helping someone new to all this, by making it easy for them to start, is what I would have wanted to have someone do when I was starting out 😅