Don't give up! It's objectively harder to reach the "feeling good" stage in comparison to the man-handle, because if you're tense, the muscle in there hurts because it tenses and is really strong. It tensing around something non-soft, makes it hurt, it hurting makes you panic, and you panicking makes you tense more.
And when you're panicking and hurting, you can't really get horny. Instead you have to work it and explore it slowly, so you're relaxed throughout, in order to reach the feel-good stage first, and then it's mostly downhill from there haha
I mean, tax fraud is very enjoyable, yes.